This morning I read a tweet that contained a stern warning for young people:
“If you focus on work-life balance, you won’t reach the top of any discipline.”
Don't buy it—this statement is a false dichotomy, a trap. Here's why...
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Firstly, I hate the term “work-life balance” because it implies that life is a zero sum game—that to be great at one thing you have to suck at another. That you can have either career ambition or a healthy, multi-dimensional life but not both.
Ironically, those with the most “balanced” lives don’t use that term—because they don’t seek balance, they seek to kick ass at everything. It's a pursuit, not a state of being.
Beware of those who use that term (esp in critical way) because they aren’t the ones to emulate.
About 15 years ago I had a very strange encounter.
I was at a backyard party and an older man—he looked to be in his 70’s—came up to me and said…
“You don’t know me but I’ve been watching you all evening and... 🧵👇
...I think you’re going to do big things in life. But fear is holding you back.”
He caught me completely off guard—one of the rare moments when I’ve been speechless. He continued…
“Here’s what I’d like you to do:
Go to a river or lake and pick up 7 stones. Hold each stone and think about one of your fears. Then toss each stone into the water and let those fears go.”
Now remember, I grew up around hustlers & was taught that if you don’t know who’s being hustled then it’s you. So...
I feel stronger & sharper—and more importantly, more content—than ever.
But my path wasn’t easy.
I’m going to share some things I’ve never said publicly in the hope that it helps one person. 🧵👇
I grew up in the midst of mental illness, addiction, & big secrets. Half of my family ended up in prison and the fallout continues to this day.
I’m not special—we’ve all known hardship & some of you endured much worse so maybe you can relate to my story…
Oprah says we should “turn our wounds into weapons” & that’s exactly what I did. I developed a sensitive BS-detector, a high tolerance for pain, & a relentless drive to win. Those weapons served me well—I rapidly checked all the boxes that define success in our society.