I hate this "don't let fear of Covid rule your life" thing
Nobody is LETTING the fear of Covid rule their lives
They are afraid of Covid
Fear is a healthy response to danger
Fear can guide us to make safer & more protective choices
It's OK to be afraid of Covid.
Obviously if you feel like your anxiety is debilitating or you're experiencing clinical depression, you should consult a mental health professional. You deserve better than to have your life ruined by anxiety.
But this new-agey "don't let fear rule your life" is really trash.
You can't just opt out of an important human emotion
Just learned this is called Spiritual Gaslighting. Fascinating.
We always have to weigh the risks vs. the benefits.
If your appendix is infected and inflamed, you'll be given the risks of surgery vs. other treatments.
There's a risk of death from both. Most people (in the US) choose surgery.
We know that surgery under general anesthesia comes with the risk of death, but we choose surgery for all sorts of things.
Antibiotics, Advil, Tylenol, Albuterol ... they all have risks, but we still choose to take them when it's appropriate.
The Covid vaccine is the same.
The ONLY reason people are worried about the risks of the Covid vaccine over other drugs or treatments they may be prescribed is **because this vaccine has become politicized**.
There's an article out about a guy who duped and exploited a lot of women about 10 years ago.
It's a redemption story.
What the author seems to have missed is that this man used the redemption arc to create a brand for himself that allowed him access to vulnerable young women.
His redemption story back in 2011-ish was the evidence he presented for himself that he should be trusted.
He'd been bad, he said back then, and now he sees how and why and he's working to be a better man - and help other men be better.
But it was all a scam.
There's no difference between what he's doing in this most recent story and what he did in 2011.
He's saying, "I've been bad. Here's the bad stuff I did. I don't assume I'll be forgiven, but I'm a better man now. Trust me."
I hope parents of middle school boys know how **angry** many boys are at girls.
I know this is nothing new, but it's important for parents of boys to understand how deep a boy's resentment of girls can run during adolescence.
I'm shocked at the things I hear being said.
I've spent the last year thinking about what makes otherwise sweet boys so rage-filled & cruel to girls.
My theory is that they feel desire and lust, but they aren't mature enough yet to compartmentalize that desire in a healthy way.
They're mad they can't get what they want.
I think most of them are very aware of consent and bodily autonomy, and they're just frustrated and angry at these new feelings and not knowing what to do with them.
That's all OK, and probably healthy.
But then they see girls being confident, peppy, & unapologetically cute...
To my friend who has an infant and wants to lose weight:
I just want to say for the record that you do not have to lose weight.
Your body is literally perfect exactly how it is.
I love you at this moment with a belly and loose skin and no waist.
You are perfect.
Your pre-baby weight & pre-baby body belong to a different time.
I don't know about you, but I don't want to be pre-baby again. I won't trade in my dimpled thighs or my squishy-textured belly. I don't want nt tiny arms or bony ankles back.
I want THIS body. THIS life.
I want THESE babies. The big ones and the little ones. I want to be over 40. I want to weigh more than I did. I want to have wrinkles and big boobs and back fat.