In today’s @ObserverUK :
“Professionals can sometimes underestimate children’s suppressed feelings. From ages 4-11, Ella’s behavioural problems had been interpreted as a conduct issue, not a sign that at home she & her mother were under duress.” #ACES
2. “The recommendatns address how patchy many professionals’ understanding of coercive control is.” #FierceCuriosity is needed to help our children, not defensive egos. This is why I proudly tell stories of professional journeys of insight, like @bainsfordht & @KeeganSmith_Law .
3. “Why didn’t the school, social workers & police join up the dots?” Well, one reason is that we often aren’t curious enough, or we don’t pay attention to children’s FEELINGS. We’re often too tired & overwhelmed ourselves to manage that. So - that’s a place to start. #Curiosity
False Memory Syndrome.
What it is & what it isn’t.
A brief history.
Because this dying concept is suddenly all over the newspapers & social media again. THREAD.
2. After ths wkend’s news rounds, I thought a bit more history might help. The papers imply “false memories” are rather like amnesia. Wrong. Ths is a concept that emerged specificlly around child sexual abuse. How do I know? I co-authored a book on it in 2000 w/ @routledgebooks .
3. The term 'False Memory Syndrome' emerged in t early 1990s in USA, when several parents were accused by adult daughters of sexual abuse. The memories had often been recovered in therapy. Together, t parents argued these recovered/repressed memories were inaccurate, 'false'.
Its been a rough weekend for t news. How abt we hv a THREAD OF JOY?
This week @realdcameron & I intervwd @czzpr on children's LAUGHTER. @eliistender10 has just offerd a brilliant illustratn! So when we look closer, what details do we find in 60 secs of a @sesamestreet exchange?
2. From t start (.02), we know this is a deep conversatn because they are lookng right into one another's eyes. Think abt how good Jim Henson was as a puppeteer, to get that angle workng, both for us & the child. That's part of what makes Kermit 'real': his eye gaze, his timing.
3. Oooh! By .03, a self-esteem challnge has been posed! "Can you sing the alphabet?" Kermit waits VERY attentively, his intense eye gaze *containing* t big feelngs that come up for her. See? She looks away. Calming self-regulation. "Am I up to this? Can I? Um...Yes! Yes I could."
The news that Andrew is planning to include False Memories as a means of discreditng a woman's claims has me thinking about t book on psychological syndromes I co-authored more than 20 years ago. Here's a brief THREAD of insights for anyone interested. bbc.co.uk/news/uk-600051…
2. Julia McKenzie @turquoisejulia was kind enough to tweet about that book earlier today, actually (& ironically - stars aligning!), in relation to @GeorginaDowns43 observation about the 'psychologization of physical/neurological diseases'.
3. The book explores the way in which women's experiences have often been framed as abnormal, disordered & untrustworthy, by classifying them as a psychological syndrome. For example: Rape Trauma Syndrome, Battered Women's Syndrome, PMS, False Memory Syndrome.
A brief THREAD on children’s bodies & connection, working with this gorgeous photo tweeted today by father @briancar1983 . (Mum @kellydeans3003 might have taken it.) Most people see the JOY. But there’s so much more.
2. Sitting on Dad’s shoulders requires balance. With every step Dad takes, t baby has to adjust his posture. He uses his muscles. Know what? His core strength is increased. He will need that core strength, in future years, to sit up at a desk in school. mommybites.com/col1/baby/how-…
3. So let’s think abt t modern world. Most babies travel in strollers & car seats. That doesn’t strengthen core muscles. Toddlers walk less than they used to. Core not strengthened. Indeed: today‘s children seem to be faring worse than earlier generations. enablingadaptations.com/core-strength-…
In honour of ths morn's conv w/ @czzpr & @realdcameron for @teacherhugradio , here's a THREAD exploring t complexity of t most recent BABY LAUGHTER video to go viral. Whn we look closer at ths wee one's JOY, we gain insights into our whole human species.
2. Ok, she starts out, at 0.00, lookng straight at t camera. That means she's aware of Daddy, who is videoing ths lovely moment. Even in t midst of the hilarity, she's aware of her wider environment & the people in it. That's multi-taskng! She can do complex things w/ her attntn.
3. And now! On with the joy! She's got a new toy - a torch (flashlight) - that she can USE to make WONDROUS THINGS happen! She can CONTROL THE DOG! We are witnessing a baby discover she has power over her world. This is a baby building self-esteem in the midst of FUN.
I want to welcome 2022 in t same way I saw out 2021: by reflecting on the magnificence of a baby starting to walk. It is so much more significant than even proud parents may realise.
A THREAD on human potential.
Thank you @AshleyCScotland & @Frankie_Toner1 for t opportunity.
2. Listen to t delight of mum @AshleyCScotland as she witnesses t moment her wee girl stands up & walks "all by herself". That joyous pride? "You clever girl!" Mum's voice MARKS this moment as a major life transition. And it is - occurring right there in an ordinary living room.
3. Okay, here's a fascinating insight. Look! This is her very first walk about on her own ever! And, somehow, her body knows how to help her stay balanced! How?? "Hold out your arms, Lass. Keep them evenly spaced."
HER BODY KNOWS TO DO THIS! Without any teaching!