When we call out sexual assault against women as a problem men need to solve, and some men use #NotAllMen as a way to avoid responsibility for those violent acts, these men are saying "I don't commit assault." /1 
The challenge here is that we are also using #NotAllMen as a way to avoid taking responsibility for our collective silence when some men around us do locker room talk, cat calling, tell sexist jokes, and commit worse acts. /2
Yes, millions of us don't actively commit abusive acts against women. But our collective #NotAllMen defensiveness rings strident and off key given our collective unwillingness to challenge men in our immediate circles who are openly abusive towards women and non-binary people. /3
If all men stood up to end violence against women, most of it would be gone tomorrow. This simple fact means we are failing in our collective responsibility, and all the #NotAllMen in the world will not absolve us of this. /4
Men in comments are going to say, "I'm not responsible for what other men do!" I'm sorry, but yes. Yes we are. And all the #NotAllMen bluster and rage in the world won't change that fact. If this was a village and you did nothing about a predatory man, your village would fail. /5
#NotAllMen allows us an excuse to hide, allowing millions of "good men" to go on remaining silent while women suffer. We can show boys and men love and respect while also holding ourselves COLLECTIVELY accountable for violence against women and non-binary people and other men. /6
Yes, I have a book. Several, in fact. The Little #MeToo Book for Men talks about all this in greater depth. Links to our podcasts, books, YouTube and more: linktr.ee/RemakingManhood /7
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