Dont get dragged into a fight you know nothing about out of sentiment and a subtle blackmail
It is better to be in control of a situation than to be the one being controlled by the situation
If you have gotten yourself into such a situation, it is always wise to walk away on time
A lady came to me in tears
She said her younger sister was killed by her husband and as a result of that she planned to deny him the right to raise the children lady left behind because she was sure he was not fit to be a parent
I asked her how her sister died and she told me the
story
The man really didn't kill the lady
Some couples quarrel all the time, this man and his late wife fall into that category
The lady was not very healthy from birth and the man took a gamble getting married to her
Of course he could have been kinder and more humane in the way
he treated her
She could have done better too
Many pastors and well-wishers got involved in their marital struggle until one day the lady fell ill and passed on
While the lady was ill, her older sister took her children home and took care of them because the man was working out
of state
This woman decided her sister could have lived longer but for the incessant disagreements she was having with her husband
She combed through her late sister's phone to gather evidence of the misunderstandings between the couple
She really didn't have a case, the children
ought to be raised by their father if he desires to exercise that right
She went to police stations to report the case and she was counseled that she has no right to seize the man's children out of spite
It is true that she was hurting that her sister was dead but her sister had
always been sick and constant disagreement between a couple does not amount to murder, especially since the man was out of state when his wife died and there was no foul play whatsoever
Out of desperation, this woman came to me.
She wanted to go supernatural on the matter, since
legal avenues seemed like a lost cause
We had a chat and she cried very well
I felt a strong restrain on the matter but what else do you do when you are faced with the sight of a woman in tears?
I fell for it and told the woman I will pray about it
Later that day she sent me
a video clip of a family meeting they had in which the man was shouting violently after he was told that his children will not be released to him
When I saw that video, I paused
I realized that the man had more restrain that I
No man or woman in this world can take my children
from me
If anybody threatens it or tries it
I will unleash unprecedented catastrophe on such a person
I mean that!
If I was in the man's shoes, I wouldn't just be shouting and getting myself videoed
I would have locked every member of that family up without a second thought!
So i stayed action and didnt do anything about the matter
This woman expected to see lighting, thunder, earthquake, and tsunami by the Holy Ghost but she saw nothing
The man had taken her to court and the case will start in February
She went to members of the late sister's church
seeking someone who would stand as a witness against this man in court
Nobody responded
Not because they supported the man but because they knew the marriage was tough and both parties played their part in that
She reached out to pastors from three denominations who had helped
the couple settle their quarrels at different times
None of them saw the case as worthy of their time and attention
The counsel was, "Release the man's children to him, he is their father. If he doesn't love them, he wouldn't be fighting tooth and nail to get them back right now"
So again this woman reached out to me asking me to come and be a witness in court when the case starts in February
Brother Gbenga, how can I be a witness when I didn't witness anything
What would I say?
Is that not what they call hearsay?
Like going there to report what the
woman told me or just appearing in court to slander a man who I bear no grudge against
I told the woman I cannot be a witness
She asked me if I think she was lying when she told me the man didn't treat his late sister as well as he should have
I said I cannot be a witness because
i am not a witness
She felt very disappointed about my stance but I cannot allow her to put me in a situation of compromise because of her feelings and her personal sense of judgment or vengeance
I had to walk away.
I am writing this to you Brother Gbenga to find out if you think
I did the right thing
If it can be a blessing to people on your timeline and websites, I will like to know their opinion too
Above all, I felt a burden lift when I decided to share this with you
Couples need to do better in their marriages and family members need to stop blaming
spouses for the death of their relative without a shred of evidence
If he was the one that died, we would have done everything to protect his wife and we wouldn't separate her from her children
It was too convenient to deny him the right to his children because you are angry
E.A
PS: I read this and i felt we will learn one or two things from it
Some people simply dont know how to love, of course, they think they do and they act as if they do but deep down, they really don't
They love themselves too much to really love or give themselves to another
Whoever they are with is only good enough as long as they can still get
something out of such a person
Be it friend, relative, lover or wife
What they can get determine the depth of the friendship and as soon as they cannot get anything out of the person again, the relationship is dead
They are more of users and abusers
His father was one of such
people
His grandmother too (His Father's mother)
The pattern had been on over and over again since he was a child
He saw the way his father treated his mother (A loving, gentle and caring) woman
He walked all over her and eventually walked out of the marriage when he met a rich
He Met a stranger on her way to his heart
She didn’t know at the time the address she typed into google was his own
She just knew she was heading somewhere and she hoped she would recognise the place when she got there
He saw her looking at the buildings on the street, look
puzzled
“Which of these houses is Mine?” She mused
She had tried Dunsin, Selman, Orenze
Several that came close but well
He walked up to her, he said “Hi Stranger”
She sat up and said “Hi you”
She smiled
He smiled
She extended her hand
He took it, raised it to his lips and
kissed it
She blushed
“What are you doing, stranger?” She asked him
“ I am introducing myself” He replied
She said, wow, this your introduction ehn, too skilful”
He said “You were searching for Me”
“How did you know that?” She asked
He smiled and said “Because I was searching
I remember the first time my Daddy saw me ministering at a crusade
I was holding a Bible in one hand and a microphone in the other
The location was at Ojota motor park
Someone took pictures and posted them on Facebook
My daddy almost had an heart attack
He knew some of his folks
and friends in Nigeria are on Facebook
He had told all of them I was a successful journalist (I was and that I sometimes write movie scripts and also direct movies)
The last time he was in Nigeria before this time, he saw one of the movies I produced and even took some copies of
the DVD to the USA to show off to his friends
He felt something had gone terribly wrong with me
He wrote me a message on Facebook and on Whatsapp
He said "What is this that I am seeing? Is this what you are now doing with your life? After millions worth of investment including a
Pilot fishes are always swimming around a shark, feeding off the crumbs of the shark's meal
Some pilot fishes eat so much that they grow large enough in size for the shark to notice them, once this happens, that pilot feet becomes the next meal of the shark
That is nature for you
In ministry, there are many people who will be drawn to you as co-labourers
Some of them are attracted to your anointing
Some are drawn to your result
Some are drawn to the money they can get off you
You would invite some yourself, at the beginning when you're still trying to get
on your feet
Some of these people will be pilot fishes, they may wear suits and ties and carry the Bible in their hands or on their head
They are not really looking unto Jesus
You are their focus
No matter how much they pray or preach, you are the one they try to impress and they
How much light is inside of you?
Knowledge is light
There are many who pray and pray and pray but they have no light in them
Prayer warriors full of fear, dread, and darkness
Believing that everything they need to do about prayer is casting and binding and cursing and wailing!
I know someone who had been born again for forty years, a very prayerful person who had headed the prayer and intercession team of many churches
We were having a conversation and she said "It is the enemy that we have to focus on and fight, that is what the bible called the good
fight of fight. This life is a warzone and we must continually wage war against the power of darkness that wants to destroy our testimony and rob us of our gains in life"
For some believers, she would make a lot of sense but not to me"
I patiently listened to her and asked her
Doing the work of God in a shoddy manner attracts no blessing, if you are not ready to do the work as one that was sent, it is advisable to keep away.
I mean this with love and respect, zeal is good but when you receive the right call and you choose to obey it, you must treat it
with utmost respect
There is a carnal spirit, the Bible referred to it as the “spirit in man” and some old ministers defined it as the spirit in man, this spirit is not the Holy Spirit.
It is a spirit of religion and all it cares about is looking good and seeming good. It is not
of God.
When you set out as a minister to do the work of ministry in a carnal manner in which all you desire to do is use people or use whoever is available regardless of their obvious ungodly nature, you are not doing it as unto the Lord. You are just doing it for your own ego!