Thread by @GbengaWemimo

Dont get dragged into a fight you know nothing about out of sentiment and a subtle blackmail
It is better to be in control of a situation than to be the one being controlled by the situation
If you have gotten yourself into such a situation, it is always wise to walk away on time

A lady came to me in tears
She said her younger sister was killed by her husband and as a result of that she planned to deny him the right to raise the children lady left behind because she was sure he was not fit to be a parent
I asked her how her sister died and she told me the

story
The man really didn't kill the lady
Some couples quarrel all the time, this man and his late wife fall into that category
The lady was not very healthy from birth and the man took a gamble getting married to her
Of course he could have been kinder and more humane in the way

he treated her
She could have done better too
Many pastors and well-wishers got involved in their marital struggle until one day the lady fell ill and passed on
While the lady was ill, her older sister took her children home and took care of them because the man was working out

of state
This woman decided her sister could have lived longer but for the incessant disagreements she was having with her husband
She combed through her late sister's phone to gather evidence of the misunderstandings between the couple
She really didn't have a case, the children

ought to be raised by their father if he desires to exercise that right
She went to police stations to report the case and she was counseled that she has no right to seize the man's children out of spite
It is true that she was hurting that her sister was dead but her sister had

always been sick and constant disagreement between a couple does not amount to murder, especially since the man was out of state when his wife died and there was no foul play whatsoever
Out of desperation, this woman came to me.
She wanted to go supernatural on the matter, since

legal avenues seemed like a lost cause
We had a chat and she cried very well
I felt a strong restrain on the matter but what else do you do when you are faced with the sight of a woman in tears?
I fell for it and told the woman I will pray about it
Later that day she sent me

a video clip of a family meeting they had in which the man was shouting violently after he was told that his children will not be released to him
When I saw that video, I paused
I realized that the man had more restrain that I
No man or woman in this world can take my children

from me
If anybody threatens it or tries it
I will unleash unprecedented catastrophe on such a person
I mean that!
If I was in the man's shoes, I wouldn't just be shouting and getting myself videoed
I would have locked every member of that family up without a second thought!

So i stayed action and didnt do anything about the matter
This woman expected to see lighting, thunder, earthquake, and tsunami by the Holy Ghost but she saw nothing
The man had taken her to court and the case will start in February
She went to members of the late sister's church

seeking someone who would stand as a witness against this man in court
Nobody responded
Not because they supported the man but because they knew the marriage was tough and both parties played their part in that
She reached out to pastors from three denominations who had helped

the couple settle their quarrels at different times
None of them saw the case as worthy of their time and attention
The counsel was, "Release the man's children to him, he is their father. If he doesn't love them, he wouldn't be fighting tooth and nail to get them back right now"

So again this woman reached out to me asking me to come and be a witness in court when the case starts in February
Brother Gbenga, how can I be a witness when I didn't witness anything
What would I say?
Is that not what they call hearsay?
Like going there to report what the

woman told me or just appearing in court to slander a man who I bear no grudge against
I told the woman I cannot be a witness
She asked me if I think she was lying when she told me the man didn't treat his late sister as well as he should have
I said I cannot be a witness because

i am not a witness
She felt very disappointed about my stance but I cannot allow her to put me in a situation of compromise because of her feelings and her personal sense of judgment or vengeance
I had to walk away.
I am writing this to you Brother Gbenga to find out if you think

I did the right thing
If it can be a blessing to people on your timeline and websites, I will like to know their opinion too
Above all, I felt a burden lift when I decided to share this with you
Couples need to do better in their marriages and family members need to stop blaming

spouses for the death of their relative without a shred of evidence
If he was the one that died, we would have done everything to protect his wife and we wouldn't separate her from her children
It was too convenient to deny him the right to his children because you are angry

E.A

PS: I read this and i felt we will learn one or two things from it

-GSW-

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