Thread by @lacroicsz

it makes me sad when men interpret low success on dating apps as either them being ugly/undateable or women being shallow and only wanting gigachads

dating apps do not reflect how women actually experience attraction.

all these apps do is warp your perception and blackpill you

in a normal setting a lot of women dont see appearance as totally separate from or even value it nearly as much as other things that make men attractive, such as humor, making us feel safe, inspiring us etc

one thing men understandably struggle to understand is that for a LOT of women, physical attraction to appearance comes after other forms of attraction

i could see a photo of a super fit guy and acknowledge he looks good but not really care beyond that

but a man who may look average can become extremely physically attractive based on his personality

its a difference in how we experience attraction, and dating apps do not account for this whatsoever. they actually thwart, confuse and diminish natural attraction for both sexes.

and the most sad and ironic part of all is that dating apps destroy mens confidence for these reasons, yet one of the things women find most attractive is confidence. absolute poison. women dont want a guy who looks good in a selfie, we want a guy we can lean on and admire

NONE of this is to say that dating irl is easy, im well aware we live in a society and everything is shit. but my point is that dating apps are very misleading, making it all worse, and theyre not giving you accurate information