Thread by @AlexPetrovnia

If trans men's masculinity threatens you, you should examine that instead of reducing us to "near women" for your own comfort.

I am a man. I am not less of a man than cis men. I see so many attempts to attenuate or reduce the masculinity of trans men in order to make others comfortable.

It's okay to exclude me from women's spaces; I am not a woman.
If you wish to make a space open to marginalized genders, or a space for those subject to misogyny, then I should be included.
Womanhood is not the experience of misogyny and it's important to differentiate that.

Part of transfeminism is realizing that many traditionally "women's spaces" are not women's spaces at all. Places like reproductive care clinics, services for those who face misogyny, etc are not women's spaces alone. They must be open to men and others to be transfeminist.

And this is an uncomfortable realization to work with! But it's an important one to struggle with.
Women's only spaces absolutely deserve to exist, but they are not equivalent to reproductive care spaces or spaces for those facing misogyny.

If we continue to define places like reproductive care facilities and spaces for those who face misogyny as only "women's spaces", we continue to deny care to trans men and nonbinary people, we villainize transmasculinity, and we minimize the masculinity of trans men.

Women deserve better than for the definition of womanhood to be the abuse they suffer under misogyny. And transmasculine people deserve better than to be systematically excluded from, or asked to diminish themselves in order to access, resources that they need.

Here's a diagram for visual people to explain what I mean. These factors are not a perfect circle.