Thread by @GbengaWemimo

One day the church will come out and address the hypocrisy behind marriage
I have worked with many pastors and I have been in the church all my life
By church, I don't mean one denomination but many
One of the most puzzling dilemma I know every church is facing is on the issue

of marriage
Everything God instituted is good
Eternal life for example needed no augmentation or amendment
It was God's perfect plan of salvation that was executed by Jesus Christ
No man had a hand in it
The same with creation, it was entirely done by God
Man only benefitted

Marriage, however, the supposedly "Institution" of God didn't share the same characteristics
It was flawed from the moment Adam ate the forbidden fruit and nothing was ever able to put that Humpty-Dumpty together since then
Unlike Adam and Eve who were a perfect fit, there were

no other examples cited in scripture who were a perfect fit in marriage
Abraham had Sarah
Sarah was taken from him twice
The first time by Pharaoh, the second time by Abimelech
Hagar was given to him by Sarah and he later married Keturah and had other concubines
Both the man and

the woman in a marriage are susceptible to the attention of others and in some instances can be swept right off their feet by the tidal wave of power, money, influence, desire and will
Perhaps Sarah would have protested but her protest could cost Abraham his life
Perhaps Abraham

would have protested but his protest would have displeased his wife
Marriage is a complex "Human" not "Divine" arrangement
It cannot be divine because divinity leave no alternatives to perfection
If you label anything as divine, it has to be flawless
Marriage is not flawless,

it shared conspicuously one of the characteristics of everything made by man, one of which is imperfection.
Isaac and Rebecca didn't have a record of a third man or woman in the union and yet their home was the worst example of a home in the old testament
Their marriage was far

from ideal
Esau married three or more wives, Jacon married two and had two concubines
I can go on and on
I know couples who had not been intimate for ten years and neither of them was sick or old and yet neither cheated
I know couples who are intimate thrice a week and both were

still cheating
I know faithful husbands whose wives are praying that they should cheat because they are too "uptight and needed a dose of humility", I know faithful wives who are crying and longing every day for a husband who has gone on parol with another woman
Behind every good

marriage, there seem to be a lot of endurance and tolerance from both parties
A happy couple I know were making a joke one day and the wife said "If there is marriage in heaven I will like to marry you again!"
The husband said "What offense would God say I have committed to make

that happen"
We all laughed over it but the man meant it
He told me later that if he had a choice, he would walk out of the marriage without a second thought
One of the reasons a christian "Marriage" will not work as we all desire nowadays is that most people getting into it are

not Christians
Imagine the irony
Boy and girl live by their own will all their lives, then they get married in church and you expect the marriage to last forever
It makes no sense
The Christian life and reality is a deliberate and intentional one
It has its root and its fruit

million confessions do not make a marriage work, speaking in tongues too will fail miserably
More often than not we desire that God should help us bend or shape our partners so that they can become our dummies
The word "conform" applies both to us as we change into the image of

Christ and to us as we walk together in marriage
Not all men are husbands, not all husbands are good fathers
Not all women are wives, not all wives are good mothers
We all expect our spouses to be both a good husband/wife and a good parent(If we choose to have children)
Elephants

can swim but they would rather walk, that is how many spouses in marriages are coping today
The church must do better
We cannot just leave it as it is and label it the human condition
We have to find a way to address the cracks in this institution
We made it and it is bursting at

the seams!
The other alternative to marriage offered by the world is "Partnership"
I have studied it and it seems only the logical can thrive in that system
You cannot go into it with emotion only
You must get a contract with a lawyer and state categorically the expectations of

the partnership
It is not marriage because marriage is an institution based on a lot of assumptions
A partnership is pragmatic and both parties can benefit from it if they broker it with diligence
Someone wrote to me stating that God did not institute partnership, I replied the

person by asking if God instituted marriage
The person couldn't respond
Marriage and society at large as we have it today is not following the original blueprint of God
Our societies, like Israel of old had chosen to be like other nations and elected to have human rulers and

parliaments
Most of us use God as a convenient excuse to do our own will (You can argue all you want but it is a fact)
We have churches where God has no say in doctrine and policies all over the world, it is in this last days that some of us are coming out to say the leadership

of the church should be restored to the Holy Spirit.
We are gaining ground but the dross is much globally.
From the moment man took over the reins of his own affairs, everything, especially marriage has been altered.
Young people need to know this and not build castles in the air

by expecting faithfulness from people whose nature was not faithful
It is a fact that both men and women are polygamous by nature. You can ask google, it will tell you man is a part of the primate family and a polygamous animal!
The hypocrisy is "Not leaving that nature by

coming to Christ genuinely and believing that by getting married in a church, the man or woman would suddenly become monogamous by nature"
The term is "standing logic on its head"
Now for pastors and gospel artists who acted irresponsibly and are apologising as a result, do you

notice that their apology was always addressed to their vows and responsibilities to their spouses and the "church" but never to their nature.
Nobody apologizes for his or her nature
Excuses are given for everything else but not for nature
DNA test proposal made many women cringe

when it was announced recently
If the primate nature is not addressed, the rest is a joke...
You can train animals to control their instincts all you want but when I watched Bolton's dog eat him in Game of Thrones I realized that some innate primordial desires can disarm the most

self-controlled and trained beings
We will still witness many scandals within the church
Man must be true to his nature
Those who have the nature of Christ will be true to it
Others who have the nature of man will be true to it
The apple does not fall far from its tree

-GSW-