Thread by @GbengaWemimo

I went to visit a family several years ago, it was a modest family that was going through some life challenges
The father was late, the mother and her three children were very close-knit
I was asked to come by the mother, to pray for her children because they were not making

headway in life
I got to the house and the first child spoke, he was a single guy in his thirties
He said "Sir, look at my younger sister
She is well educated, she has fine hips, a well-rounded backside, perfectly shaped books and she is pretty to look at. Why is she not married?

I was shocked
I didn't know guys can talk like that about their sisters, I mean describe them in such a manner
Then he pointed to the second sister, a young lady in her twenties
He said "Pastor, look at my other sister, she is the most brilliant of us all. She passed her WAEC and

cleared her JAMB all at once
Look at her boobs sir, firm and lush
Look at her well-shaped rear, she doesn't even have a boyfriend and she is twenty-six
Now sir, this is my point
When they are dressing all decently, how do they want to attract a husband?
I have girlfriends and I

what attracted me to them
Instead of praying sir, I will like you to talk to my sisters and encourage them to do away with the baggy gowns and sacky clothes
You must use what you have to get what you want
I have discussed it with mummy and with them several times, maybe they will

listen to you"
I was twenty-nine at the time, and even though the power of the Holy Spirit was evident in my life, I was brought up in a very religious home
I found the words of this man offensive or provocative in a certain way and decided I was not going to pray with the family

I was offended by the way he talked about his sisters and his suggestion that they had to dress in a certain way to attract a husband.
Their mother turned to me right at the moment I was looking for an excuse to leave and she said "Even my son too, he has many girlfriends and I

welcome all of them into this house with an open arm but none of them has ever come back here to report being pregnant or carrying his child
I am getting worried, Pastor, is this not a curse of the enemy at work over this family?
Wow.
You need to imagine how her words hit me
What

kind of people speak like this? I picked my Bible, I had heard enough. I strongly felt it was time to leave but I needed to extricate myself in a political manner. So I said "I will give you some passages of the scripture and ask the Holy Spirit what to do, and then i'd get back

to you on the things I have heard"
The sisters looked at me
The mother looked at me
The brother looked at me
They didn't know why I was suddenly curt and impatient
The mother said "Pray with us Pastor, this is why I invited you to our house this morning"
I said "I am sorry but

you are not believers and I feel I had been somehow misjudged as a prayer contractor
I don't go around praying for unbelievers so that they can get married and get good jobs
It is not what I do, I am sorry"
I walked out
Every step I took away from their house was heavier than the

last
I knew I had done something wrong but I didn't know what or how to fix it
In my heart I felt what I did was right and rationalized my heavy spirit as a result of my bluntness and lack of political correctness. I was too obtuse and I ought to have left graciously instead of

saying all the things I said...
A few steps further, I heard a patter of footsteps behind me
It was one of the sisters
She said "Pastor, please be patient. It is only I and my sister that is born-again Christians in that house. Our father died as an unbeliever and I and my sister

are determined to bring my brother and mother into the knowledge of Christ
I am in a relationship, and so is my sister but we have kept it a secret from them because we know our mother would be forced to seek the Lord if she felt we are not making a headway in life
She would have

gone anywhere out of desperation but she heard a testimony about you from a family friend and told us she would find a way to invite you to pray with the family
I and my sister have been praying and fasting that salvation will come into our home today and we are shocked that you

didnt even tell my brother and mother about Jesus or pray with us
If what they said offended you sir, it is because they don't know any better and how can they know if they are not taught?
Wow!
I stood still
I felt Yiesh
I knew I didn't act the way Jesus would have acted
I turned

around and apologized to the sister
I followed her back home and apologized to the family
I told them I had culture shock and had to process the things I heard
Apparently, irreligious unbelievers talk loosely about body parts and stuff like that, even though I was just two years

old in faith at the time, my religious background wouldn't let me speak the way the mother and brother spoke but I wasn't better than them in any way
A religious unbeliever may have certain moral standards but this does not make him or her better than a murderer
A sinner is one

who has not accepted Jesus Christ as His or her personal Lord and saviour
I sat with this family and shared my salvation story, they had questions that the Holy Spirit enabled me to answer
I spent almost five hours with them that day
By the time i was leaving, the mother and

brother had given their lives to Christ and gotten filled with the Holy Spirit
I also became good friends with the sister that came to speak with me
This morning, as I woke up in my hotel room in Cotonou, Benin Republic
I remembered that this sister had relocated to this city

with her husband in 2016
Her younger sister had also gotten married in 2018 and relocated to Germany
So I picked up my phone and placed a call to her on Whatsapp
She was shocked to hear my voice!
She said she just had her second baby two days ago and had imagined that I would be

around to bless the baby
I said "Wow"
She told me her brother now works with a bank and is married with a daughter
She said her mother is in Germany, helping her younger sister nurse her second baby
I reminded her of the day I met the family and thanked her for ensuring that her

family got saved before they "scattered"
It really paid off
She told me I have matured a little since then because she saw some of my recent ministrations in which I was a little too blunt with some religious people
We laughed over it
PS: I usually don't do threads on Sunday but

I did this to celebrate a sister and a friend who contended for the faith of her household intentionally and ensured she delivered the unsaved to Christ.
God bless you sister Adebole and the entire Sampson family

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