In my complex, on my way to my house, I see a woman chilling by the pool, she’s gently rocking her baby in the stroller. What catches my eye and ear is her toddler’s scream.
He’s rolling on the floor, crying. I watch him get up, slam himself on the floor and scream louder.
His mother gets up from her lounge position, I assume she’s going to console him. Instead, she pulls back the lounge chairs beside the toddler, dragging them away from him.
Then, she goes back to chilling on her lounge chair,
continues to rock the baby in the stroller while the toddler throws a tantrum.
I move close to her, “Is he okay?” I ask, half smiling, half concerned.
“Oh, he’s fine. He will be fine,” she says. She is quite unbothered.
Ah! How do you people watch your child scream and throw himself around but you stay calm? She even pulled back the chairs so he won’t hit his head but didn’t stop him from being a public nuisance. 😂
Can anyone tell me what’s going through her mind as she watches the boy go off?
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Marriages in Nigeria and most parts of Africa are sustained by women. You can argue this with your village deity. Women in general, put up with a lot of bullshit just to make their marriages work.
From childhood they have been taught that a wise woman keeps her home. In order to keep their homes, they end up enduring a lot of ill-treatment.
Find any woman who has been with a man for donkey years and ask her if she would love to marry that same man over again in her next life. Majority would say no. This brings us to the point that most marriages are endurance marriages not happy marriages.
I have concluded that, “When will you come to my house?” is the one question Lagos men love asking. If they don’t ask this question in a day, they will probably faint!
Nothing like, “Let me take you on a trip to the Maldives,” or “Let’s go picnicking on the beach.” Iro! No romance from here to there. Nothing nothing. Just vibes, Insha Allah and “come to my house.”
Okay o! We have come to your house o! House is smelling like ginger mixed with dirty socks.
Today, I’d like to - once again- address people in their early 20s.
When I graduated from Uni in 2006 (22 years old) I had a plan - Work for a movie company, save, write my own movie. The plan didn’t work after NYSC when I realised those movie companies didn’t pay much/at all.
Sometimes, I would walk to Opebi from Maryland Bus-stop because I couldn’t afford public transportation so I changed plans: Get a job that pays you, make money, then write. My goal was to be a writer so any job I took at the time was okay as long as I was making money.
In 2008, I worked in a wealth management firm as a receptionist- my first real job. I would hear conversations about investments but mostly they were huge sums that seemed far-fetched at the time. I was just striving to survive and my belief was that only rich people invest,
There are seven things I wish I knew earlier in life. Not that I regret my experience so far in life, I only wish I knew certain things sooner.
1. That love is an action, not mere words: So that when people tell me sweet nothings, I do not fall for all they say, helplessly, because you can tell me you love me, but not want the best for me. I want to hear you say you love me, but I want to feel it even more.
2. That my time and season will come, I need not worry about a thing: God is neither late nor early; He is always on time. Whatever I am meant to be, I will be, in due time. I do not need to be anxious for anything.
We curated a list on the benefits of living alone. Swipe to see! 💃🏽
1. You can be naked any and every time: You can parade your house naked, with all your God-given features hanging! You can even cook naked. It’s just you in your natural form. Bliss!
2. You don’t have to deal with anybody’s mood swings: one minute some people are acting all sweet and homely, and the next minute, they are being rude and nasty. Living alone would save you from this stress, honestly.