it makes me sad when i see young trans identified people say “i know i’m trans because i tried therapy and it didn’t work”
it shows a misconception of what “therapy” is supposed to be, and major failures in the ideas and practices of modern mainstream psychology
most “therapy” sucks. but “therapy” is where anybody who struggles emotionally is told to go. when the system fails them they go to blame themselves. they’ve already been told they have a brain disability for experiencing emotions anyway.
i don’t even like when “gender dysphoria” is called a “mental illness”
sure, it’s very distressing and relatively abnormal
but feeling shame, fear, disgust, grief, or jealousy surrounding ones body and social perception
those are just emotions
it doesn’t have to be something super special. it doesn’t have to be an emergency. it doesn’t have to be so pathologized and stigmatized and medicalized.
emotions can be understood, related to in different ways, and pain can be healed.
after internalizing these medicalized ideas about psychology, most people can’t even identify their emotions. all they know is “depression” and “dysphoria”.
of course “therapy doesn’t work” when it takes you further away from understanding and compassion for your emotional pain
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every once in a while a video from some trans youtuber i used to watch comes across my recommendations and it gives me the deepest creeps seeing these severely unwell people who are basically cultists lying to their young impressionable audience, of which i was once a part
and its really weird how theyre exactly the same now as they were then. making the same content talking about the same things telling the same lies. theres something really really wrong with these people. but they have so much influence over the children who watch them.
jammidodger is one of the worst. hasnt changed a bit since 2016 except for the fact that she had multiple genital surgeries, and in her video talking about her horrifying complications she keeps saying not to let her testimony convince you not to get the surgeries. total freak.
i dont know how anyone can think that children being constantly inundated with pornography and hypersexualized themes and imagery in popular culture would have nothing to do with those children wanting desperately to escape into a childish fantasy caricature of the opposite sex
my generation was a massive social experiment of what happens when children are introduced to graphic sexual themes and imagery from before they even hit puberty or understand that the opposite sex has a different body. its not going too well tbh.
i dont think people quite understand that when a child finds porn or talks about sexual topics with adults online or views graphically sexual popular media, that child is participating in adult sex acts. this is having disastrous outcomes.
i wouldn’t go vegan again, and i’m not gonna argue about that 😂, but i respect vegans with true conviction. eating meat is normal for the human species, but our society has lost the fucking plot with regard to how we treat animals, and i understand wanting to abstain.
if you are bothered by industrial farming practices, i would recommend looking into local farmers in your area. cutting out animal foods is dangerous for your long term health and should not be taken lightly, and small farms use more ethical practices (and produce healthier food)
if you’re in the US, this site is a good place to start. also check your city for farmers markets. many will have indoor winter markets as well. build a relationship with the people who devote their lives to ensuring you have quality food localharvest.org/organic-farms/
a lot of women are going to be most interested in men based on things that can’t be displayed in a dating app profile
his mannerisms, his way of interacting with others, his attitude towards her in various situations, his mindset, observing his skills in action, etc
dating apps flatten men into a bunch of “hey”s and selfies, which is boring compared to how interesting, impressive, and attractive men can be in real life when you get to be around them and interact with them as two real human beings
i’m talking about looking for a relationship on these platforms, not casual sex
most of the screenshots you see “proving” that women only want 6’5 shredded gigachads are from people engaging in casual sex, not dating for a relationship
the woman who downloads an app to find a guy with abs to have unfulfilling casual sex with that makes her hate her life is not in a place where she’d make a good partner for a relationship anyway
yeah, she might be looking for abs and putting snarky comments about how you have to be 6 feet tall, but is this a person who’s attitude is healthy and will lead to her finding a fulfilling relationship? no
it makes me sad when men interpret low success on dating apps as either them being ugly/undateable or women being shallow and only wanting gigachads
dating apps do not reflect how women actually experience attraction.
all these apps do is warp your perception and blackpill you
in a normal setting a lot of women dont see appearance as totally separate from or even value it nearly as much as other things that make men attractive, such as humor, making us feel safe, inspiring us etc
one thing men understandably struggle to understand is that for a LOT of women, physical attraction to appearance comes after other forms of attraction
i could see a photo of a super fit guy and acknowledge he looks good but not really care beyond that