I know a lot of marriages & relationships that would do better if the man in the relationship learns SUBMISSION. Yes! Submission to his wife and ultimately to God. Let me put this in proper context: #Athread
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Alot of people especially here in Africa can attest to moments or decisions in their homes that cost the family so much. Problems that would been avoided if daddy listened to mummy but daddy failed to because daddy 'is the man of the house' and wanted to exact that power.
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Submission is allowing someone have power over you even though you are powerful. It's not a sign of weakness in marriage but an avenue for progress.God made women to bring great value in this world as men too.
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If you do not allow that value flow in your household, you will lose a great deal.
A man submitted to his spouse is one who is loyal to her, honours her as God's gift to him, listens to her, wants the best for her and puts her above others except his maker.
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He sees her as a partner and support system, because that's how God designed it to be.
Alot of vices that break relationships are a product of the work of the flesh, e.g lying, cheating, malice, pride and the list goes on.
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A man who is submitted to God doesn't find these vices attractive and hence would avoid them not because of love alone but because of His submission to God.
Love is great but it takes the Spirit of God to tame the flesh, the works of the flesh and not love alone.
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In times when love is tested, submission to God will save the relationship or marriage. I must say here that men and women are to submit to THEIR SPOUSES not to other men or women.
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This is one among many ways a good marriage can be built in this day and age. A man who is submitted to his spouse and God is on a golden plan to a prosperous home.
Thanks for reading through
And May your home be among the best
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It's unfortunate that many believers have turned God to a vengeance police. So we claim to forgive but deep in our hearts we are only letting go because we believe that somehow, God will get even on behalf. Unfortunately this doesn't happen in most cases and this is why... 1
God loves you & the offender too. His will for both of you is to get your hearts perfected in love. So for you the offended, bitterness must not gain root in your heart & the offended must learn to walk in love so not to be the cause of offense too... 2
His primary reason for asking you to forgive an offender is because you ought to be person of love & full of mercy like Him. You may be so disappointed if you keep waiting for something bad to happen your offender. Some people will not get judged for their wrong in this life.. 3
A few days ago my wife reminded me of some of the things I did while we were dating that convinced her to stay with me.
A THREAD...
Whenever she visited me and maybe one of my younger brother's (we are all boys in my family) was doing the chores at home..
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she would try to collect the chore from them but I would refuse, saying to her 'it is his duty, let him do it. Besides, he is younger than you, I don't want any form of disrespect to come to you'. (In her own words).
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She never cooked, cleaned or did chores in my family house while we were dating even though she could and extended the desire to, I just didn't allow.
Don't get it wrong, my wife dey cook, clean and does every other thing better than anyone I know..
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About 4 Years ago, my wife & I woke up one day not knowing we were about to have the 1st major quarrel in our lives as a couple cause of scissors. Our son was still an infant so we couldn't take him to the barbers so my wife got his hair trimmed from time to time. #Thread
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On this particular day, she wanted to get his hair trimmed as usual, so we both sat on the front porch of our house in Abuja. As a kind & loving husband, I offered to do the trimming this time, especially because I noticed certain areas she couldn't reach, long story short..
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while I was trimming his hair, I swung the scissors in a way my wife didn't feel comfortable with and she didnt hold back her feelings about it. This got me feeling upset and a part of me felt attacked because I thought I was seen as irresponsible, before you knew it..
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As a single man, I was always scared if getting married. My fears then are as valid as what many fear today; what if my wife is malicious? What if my wife is a cheat? What if we don't get and stay in love? What if I fail as a husband? What if sex is bad and I can't cheat?
What if I can't stay faithful to one? What if I get deceived and marry the wrong woman? what if, what if! I had so many reasons to be very scared of the institution.
My first deliverance was the day the Lord delivered me by asking me this question: What if it works?
I realized that I was dwelling so much on the negative possibilities I failed to consider the possibility of an awesome union. The next thing is God assured me that as long as I walk with Him in the decision, I can never be in the wrong. Where He stands is always right
My wife is DROP DEAD, GET UP BACK TO LIFE GORGEOUS!
But as attractive as she is and has always been, it was the least of the reasons I got married to her.
By the time I met my wife, I had come to understand a few very important things that make for a Happy home.
A THREAD...
beyond just physical attraction (which is very important too)
I knew I needed PEACE. The world out there is full of trouble, but inside my home had to safe for us. I knew to enjoy a happy marriage we needed to be on the same page about forgiveness and living in peace...
Thank God she is a peace maker and not a troublemaker.
Alot of men cannot stay at home cause of this very reason.
I knew I needed to be able to TRUST her.
Till this day people I know try to slide into my wife's dm and I trust her not be swayed by desperate and funny guys..