"A Crybully is someone who engages in intimidation, harassment, or other abusive behavior while claiming to be a victim. They use perceived righteousness as a pretext to abuse others, and then play the sufferer when confronted about the abuse they were dishing out."
"Teachers are probably the first witnesses to the evolving Crybully: the young child who has learned bullying behaviors and acts out by hitting other children, until someone finally chooses not to put up with it and retaliates. The bully then cries, 'They hit me!'"
"If you don’t fight back, the Crybully bullies you. If you fight back, the Crybully cries and demands a safe space, because you made him or her feel unsafe."
"Crybullies appear to mirror through their own actions what they are claiming in victimhood. They are narcissists who complain about selfishness, takers who shout out against greed, and bullies alleging to be victims."
"The Crybully takes his or her own [claim to] pain and victimization and uses it to make sure every conversation revolves around himself or herself."
"The Crybully starts with a genuine trauma. The terrible thing that happened naturally makes the Crybully feel unsafe, self-protective and self-conscious to the point of self-absorption. The trauma makes that person intensely concerned about self-image..."
"The problem with Crybullying comes from the subsequent need to control any situation, the failure to see the big picture, the tendency to lash out in fear and anger as a way to fixate attention on oneself and obliterate others."
"Crybullying emerge out of a [claimed] feeling of weakness, and create a climate that causes more pain, in which it is not safe to lead with vulnerability, not safe to test out ideas or do the things that create genuine companionship."
"This is the age of the Crybully, a hybrid of victim and victor, weeper and walloper. They are everywhere, these duplicit Pushmi-Pullyus of the personal and the political... It’s a sort of Munchausen’s syndrome - causing one’s own misery then complaining about it."
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