Thread by @ElieNYC

In any event, the kind of racism Tucker is throwing at KBJ happens to Black people *all the time* in the legal profession. We're constantly asked to *re*prove that we're "qualified" by white people who are never satisfied no way.
And all of us develop different strats to deal...

Over the course of my life, I've run the full spectrum. Started at "I will prove to whites that I belong" all the way to "how bout y'all kiss my black ass." I've gone from trying to gain white approval, to actively rejecting it, to not caring about it at all...

I've learned there's no way to "win." There's no way to do whatever it is white's want you to do to make them leave you the hell alone.
Every black person has to choose how much white nonsense they're willing to put up with, because there will always be more nonsense on offer...

As you get older, you realize that the only ways white can really get to you, is when you want something. When you want something that whites control, that's the only time you have to even pretend to give a crap about their unending skepticism about black worth...

It's easy to say "don't want things" and I try. Most black people *try* to be self-sufficient from whiteness. But eventually you do want that job, or sale, or promotion, or house. And as soon as you do... the Tuckers come out, demanding to see elementary school permanent record..

I don't have a solution for this. If I did I would share it with all my Black friends so we could live longer. And I know KBJ can handle it, because she has to, because we all have to.
But it doesn't make it right. Just because white people always do it, doesn't make it okay.