Sometimes there isn't a perfect answer to your discomforts. Sometimes things don't work out how you'd hoped. That can be devastating, but it doesn't need to be life-ending. In a world that viewed TGD with respect & care, we'd have the resources, information, and support to cope.
When I decided I needed to detransition, I was shocked by the absolute lack of resources. There was little info on what I could expect. Most 'communities' were oriented around self-hatred and/or anti-trans ideologies, not support or mutual uplifting.
I decided to do it alone.
I decided to do it alone.
The real or perceived taboo around detransition in trans spaces made me fear rejection if I talked about it.
Detransitioning was a very lonely experience. I was the fraction of a fraction of a fraction. It sometimes felt like I was the only person in the world going thru this.
Detransitioning was a very lonely experience. I was the fraction of a fraction of a fraction. It sometimes felt like I was the only person in the world going thru this.
I know that's not true. I get comments & DMs of people who've gone thru de/retransition and felt the same way I did. It's comforting to know I'm not really alone, but I can't help but feel upset that others had to go through something so difficult & painful entirely on their own.
I don't talk about my detransition because I want to distract from potential benefits of transition, or to inflate the number of people who detransition. I talk about it because I don't want people to go thru this the same way I did. I don't want people to feel hopeless & alone.
I want us to have information and options available, no matter where our transitions take us. I want us to have support networks that focus on our own self-development, wellbeing, and needs, alongside other TGD people. I want us to build and fight for those things, together.
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