13 yr old son, "Mom, dang you take a lot of pills. Why? *pinball machine subject change* Turning Red was so embarrassing. Talking about period stuff for girls and middle school drama -cringe."
Me, "Get in the van you're coming with me to run errands." 1/
Him, "Ugh, ok."
Me, "I need you to know WHY I'm going to tell you these things. I want you to 1 -be a better man, 2 - be a good partner if you marry a woman, 3 - be a good dad, and 4 - be more understanding of the world in general."
Him, "Huh?" 2/
Me, "Do you think the reason Turning Red felt awkward was that it was dealing with subjects that aren't openly talked about without embarrassment?"
Him, "Yeah, probably."
Me, "The awkward subject you mentioned is partly why I take so many pills." 3/
"I have a condition called endometriosis, which basically means my periods can be painful. When I first started menstruating I was in and out of the hospital because I was having so much pain. I was bleeding a lot. Like a lot."
Him, "Ohhh Mom, I'm sorry. That's horrible." 4/
Me, "Yep, so that also impacts my vitamin, mineral, and hormone levels - as well as foods I should limit. I need to stay consistent with the supplements and dietary restrictions my doc has me on due to this. People didn't talk about it... 5/
which meant as a young girl in school, I felt a lot of shame and had no idea what was happening in my body. Do you remember last summer when ..."
Him, "When you slept on the floor of the bathroom and were throwing up because you were in so much pain? Yeah."
Me, "That was... 6/
3 days before my period started and a cyst had burst on one of my ovaries."
Him, "You couldn't even stand up straight for almost a week."
Me, "My point is that I want you, as a man to understand, be kind, and not make women feel gross for what their bodies naturally do." 7/
Him, "Maybe people should just talk about things more to make stuff less awkward."
Me, "I think that was likely one of the purposes with Turning Red. Don't you?" End/
Random: I once said, in a Task Force meeting, I felt like we were in danger of colonizing transracial adopted children.
I'm a transracial adoptive mother.
I was asked/forced to apologize by the then head pastor & a minority pastor IF I wanted to continue the leading the RHTF.
It wasn't until a minority brother pointed out it out to me that I realized THAT situation was spiritual abusive. I had not idea.
I continued to think I was the problem even though I was working in my own life to situate our family under BIPOC leadership and influence,
One of the elders/transracial parent was EXTREMELY angry, and rather than coming to me with his anger - which I'd be fine with because I had already spoken with his adoptive child multiple times, went behind by back to leadership to put me in my place.
When I think about those at @hopeinGod who ( I humbly count myself among) desired to help our leaders hear the cries of the vulnerable there are common characteristics that should not be dismissed 🧵 (1/
We were bought in, hook, line, and sinker - to the cause of Bethlehem. When I say that I mean, many of us moved to be a part of the church and/or her para church ministry, (2/
We desired the Gospel to be spread to the uttermost parts of the world and counted the cost in every possible sense to be a part of that mission. (3/