Someone abused my step-brother when we were little, we are 2 months apart in age. We met when we were 9 but by the time he was 12 something changed dramatically in his behavior. I believe someone raped him & that is why he abused me. I do not know who.
For some reason this detransitioned man's story of abuse felt more genuine to me than almost any other interview I've ever heard from an abused child. As a victim of CSA who doesn't like to go "into the well" is what I call it of the "details" I related to everything he said.
The language he uses seems trauma informed, he has similar tales of whoa about his "therapists" as I do mine. He seems educated on what drugs do what. I appreciate his Buddhist philosophy, so is mine. It just gave me a lot of hope & with all the news this week I hope it gives
other women hope too. #metoo He even says that he volunteers to help domestic violence victims so that if there's women out there like his mom they will believe their is somewhere to go. Someone taught this young man subversive radical feminism & I am here for it.
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Rape is an act of power & control. It's why rape victims give terrible witness testimony. Often they are unreliable witnesses. Their memories are fractured & if their rapist was a man who groomed them, who they know, they most certainly tried to protect that person at some point.
Usually victims of rape act through rage. Any time someone challenges you about that person in your life at first you will seem strange & defensive but then eventually insane & full of rage. As the memories grow into something tangible you realize how no one will believe you.
You realize how Your Story now sounds exactly like all those women's stories you heard before you. Maybe some who you supported or some you didn't. You probably Didn't support them if the man controlling you convinced you to compete with other women for affection. This is common.