I would like to say something to evangelical Christians who have platforms.
Be brave. Have courage. Speak up.
It is all too easy, once we have platforms, to put our effort into maintaining those platforms.
They took time to build! Often our livelihood depends on them.
And the evangelical world is a small one. If we want endorsements for our books; invitations to conferences; speaking opportunities--then we can't afford to tick people off.
We need to keep everyone happy so that we can keep what we have.
When one of our colleagues or friends with a platform does something wrong--teaches something harmful; ignores abuse; or even perpetrates abuse--we stay silent.
We may speak up "behind the scenes", telling ourselves, "this is the kingdom way." But that's it.
But change usually only comes with public pressure. And who is in the best place to exert public pressure? Those of us who already have platforms.
When we abdicate our responsibility out of fear or self-preservation, then we put that responsibility on those without platforms.
They will have to work so much harder to be heard. They will be exhausted. Discouraged.
They will see that the big names don't stand with them. They will feel alone. Abandoned.
And they are abandoned. By us.
If God has given you a platform, you have a responsibility to use it to further His kingdom. That means no favouritism. That means no self-preservation, but seeking first His kingdom.
That means standing up for the widow and the orphan in their distress.
Don't kid yourself that you are being "more Christian" by not naming names and not getting down in the mud.
You are merely shifting that job to other people for whom it will be so much harder. And you are discouraging them in the process.
If you can't use your platform to help those who need help, then it shouldn't surprise you if God takes that platform from you--or leaves you only with empty, meaningless fame.
Our response to @howertonjosh 's thread saying that evangelicals who believe in gender hierarchy have better sex and less abuse:
"Yes, religiosity tends to bring better sex and marriage. But that does not mean evangelicals who believe in male hierarchy do better. 1/4
In fact, they consistently have been shown to do worse on many measures than other Christians who attend church frequently, especially if you look at objective measures rather than just subjective ones. 2/4
Maybe instead of standing in public and declaring, “Thank God I am better than those people over there,” we should, in all humility, sit down and listen to the pain of the people in our own pews. It’s time to take the plank out of our own eye. 3/4
The Russian war crimes as they rape Ukrainian women and children are almost too much to bear.
And in reading them, I am feeling an overwhelming anger for so many high up in evangelicalism.
The Russian soldiers are raping because their culture promotes it.
In evangelicalism, our culture promotes it too. When I wrote The Great Sex Rescue to call out the objectification of women and even sexual coercion, I was told I wasn’t doing it in a “kingdom way."
I am thinking of all the evangelical authors and speakers and pastors that won’t repent of the objectification of women.
The rapes in Ukraine are the natural result of a culture that treats women like things and tell men they’re entitled to sex.
In a video advertising his sermon last Sunday, Pastor Ed Young compares a bedridden woman asking her husband for water to a man wanting sex from his wife.
1. A person will die without water after 3 days. Nobody dies from lack of sex.
2. He frames this as talking about a "man's sex drive." But in 19% of marriages SHE has the higher sex drive, and in 23% it's shared. We need to stop making this gendered.
3. The spouse the most likely to be deprived, if we simply count orgasms, is actually the woman. We should not be pressuring women to have sex without first saying that sex needs to be MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE FOR BOTH. We have a 47 point orgasm gap. Deal with that.
Let’s talk women and the Baptist-to-Anglican pipeline:
I won’t dwell on the deep, deep issues of betrayal of women in evangelical spaces, or of the “women” debate, because those have been articulated elsewhere.
Let’s just talk about the service.
I’ve been yearning to go to an Anglican church once lockdowns end because Anglican worship is basically just declaring truth over people. In evangelical churches it’s often emotional hype. I’m not always up for emotional hype. Sometimes I’m drained. I need truth.
I’m not saying worship songs aren’t truth; I enjoy many. But standing up to sing in an emotional way is very different than merely declaring truth, which can be done in any emotional state, and which can be very comforting when you’re drained. I need that.
This belief that lust and masculinity are intertwined is a uniquely evangelical problem.
Yes, the secular world also treats women like objects, but in the evangelical world, we turn it up a notch.
In our survey of 3,000 Christian men, we found that evangelical men were:
81% more likely to believe “lust is every man’s battle” in high school than other Christians who don’t identify as evangelicals, and
46% more likely to believe it now than other Christian men.
Our survey of 20,000 women found something even more stark. Evangelical women are 85% more likely to believe “lust is every man’s battle” than non-evangelical Christians. And the more women attend church the more likely they were to agree with the every man’s battle message.