I'm going to say this once:
No parent should be "grieving" their child about finding out their identity.
This includes:
Being ND/autistic
Being gay
Being trans
Being left-handed
You are allowed to have feelings! You're allowed to process those feelings!
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No parent should be "grieving" their child about finding out their identity.
This includes:
Being ND/autistic
Being gay
Being trans
Being left-handed
You are allowed to have feelings! You're allowed to process those feelings!
1/4
But, and this is the important part, you are not grieving a person.
You are grieving your own expectations, and have fears and concerns about your kid growing up in this society.
*That* is the loss. You lost a perception. Not the child right in front of you.
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You are grieving your own expectations, and have fears and concerns about your kid growing up in this society.
*That* is the loss. You lost a perception. Not the child right in front of you.
2/4
And if you're still thinking "Why did you put left-handed on the list?"
It's because currently that doesn't give the same stigma as everything else on that list does. If you don't grieve for left-handedness, because you can expect that possibility,
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It's because currently that doesn't give the same stigma as everything else on that list does. If you don't grieve for left-handedness, because you can expect that possibility,
3/4
Please expect these other possibilities in the same way. Then you can learn to fully accept truly see, and support the child in front of you.
Again, you're allowed to have feelings about this, just please remember that you did not lose your child. They're who they've always been
Again, you're allowed to have feelings about this, just please remember that you did not lose your child. They're who they've always been
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