One time, months after we’d broken up, someone I dated said to me, “You expressed your love way too much and it kind of scared me. Also, you were too understanding, I used to be afraid that there’s something else or that you were pretending.”
Translation: “I prefer people who hold back and play games,
I also prefer drama over peace and quick settlement of issues.”
I hated to fight so I accepted apologies quickly and just expressed my love exactly how I felt it. Guess what? That was a problem.
Months after we broke up, he came back, apologising profusely, because he realised he took all of that peace & love for granted.
However, I just couldn’t go back to that situation anymore.
When you think you prefer manipulation, games, and drama over peace, ease, and honesty,
you’ll later find that what you preferred was a result of your inner demons and that you were presented a special gift, to live differently.
If you’re reading this, I hope that you don’t take the gift in your life right now for granted.
And if you’re the gift, I hope you know you are A SPECIAL gift so when you’re being treated less, you remove yourself and move to a more deserving receiver.
It is never too late for both parties to do the needful.
IF I COULD ASK GOD FOR ANYTHING, THESE WILL BE MY REQUESTS:
1. That I fulfill His purpose for my life, and not just be a passerby. At the end of it all, I can boldly say that my life was well-spent and I made an impact in people’s lives.
2. That I continue to learn to love myself and care for myself; the decisions I make concerning my life favor me and make my life better.
3. That I am able to take care of the people I love; to make their lives easier and softer,to never a source of sorrow to those who love me.
4. In helping others to be better versions of themselves, I also prioritise my own life, growth, and mental health.
Six Things You Deserve To Experience In Your Lifetime
1. Love: You deserve to experience sweet, refreshing love. The kind of love that you don’t have to second guess. You deserve the assurance that comes with loving someone and being loved in return.
2. Peace: You deserve to feel at peace in life. No matter what the circumstances may be. True peace is not the absence of challenges, but it is knowing that everything will be just fine in the end, and there is no need to worry.
I woke up this morning and tried to think about the last time I had a Valentine’s date and I realized that I haven’t had one in a long time. I felt sad at first but one thing I avoided was tell myself, “Don’t worry, you’d get one next year,” because what if I don’t?
I calmed myself down and thought about the love I have been shown in life. I realized that I have been loved by people in so many ways, but not being shown love in a certain way - romantically - made me feel like I had never experienced it.
I looked back on my life and thought about how significant I had made romantic love be in my life. Yes, it is a good thing to experience, but there are greater forms of love I should be grateful for.
I know there are posts everywhere on the internet about leaving a relationship or marriage when you are unhappy but very rarely do you hear about people (especially young couples) who took their time to work things out.
Marriage is beautiful but totally worth the wait. Our courtship was long distance but the man at the other end was completely amazing and I could swear I was smitten.
He loved me and still loves me beyond words but there is more to marriage than love. Friendship is most important and it births love. Perfect!
Valentine’s Day is on a Monday, a working day. How sweet. It’s even more wonderful because the day after is a also work day. Tension will not be on the high side. Is there anything too hard for God to do? No.
We know that some of you with unnecessary gragra will still manage to pull it off. We don’t have a problem with this o. No, not at all. We just want to make sure that as you are expressing your love, you are going all out with it.
We don’t want to see any half-baked presents, like boxers, singlet, and paynt. That’s why we said, “Okay o, let us give these people expo.”