1) Are you a Yes-person? "Yes-people" identify strongly with always being there for everyone else. Our default answer is Yes, even if inside we are screaming "Nooooooo!". There are all kinds of reasons for this. #selfcare #mentalhealth (see thread) 
2) Maybe throughout your life you have been praised and rewarded for ignoring your own needs and putting everyone else first. Maybe you're afraid of what will happen if you start saying no. You don't like feeling guilty, or fear people getting angry or not liking you as much.
3) This isn't about becoming a selfish person either (most people who worry intensely about being selfish are usually not being overtly selfish, it's a pretty good litmus test). It's good to want to help people, and it's important to be there for others.
4) But when you don't make a habit of discerning between what you actually should say yes to, and what you need to pass on, you risk running yourself into the ground. At which point you are not useful to anyone! It's all about sustainability, and it can vary in different seasons.
5) What have you said yes to lately, that you should have said no to? Can you go back and say that you've changed your mind? If not, make a note to say no next time. The people around you will ultimately be better off, when you don't wear yourself out.
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