The reason I didn't #transition? BC I didn't only approach therapy with the objective to prove that I am without a doubt authentically trans, but with the objective to rule out the possibility that transition was what I needed, and the evidence became stacked against me. 🧵
I spoke to a gender therapist via text through an app and received 0 pushback/questioning/argument. Even when I ASKED to be confirmed instead of validated in my identity. The therapist's words to me were "If you say uou are trans, I believe that you are trans."
With minimal background of my mental health history given. This therapist had no clue of my state of mind. No idea of the emotional and physical abuse I have suffered over the years, or whether or not I may have even been experiencing a psychotic episode.
With this confirmation, it would have been insanely easy to gain access via internet or planned parenthood to cross sex hormones immediately. "Well, if a therapist thinks I'm trans than I must be," could easily have been my thought process. Consequences be damned.
I had do to all the work. I myself had to analyze my motivations for transitioning, for believing that I should've been a man and was indeed born in the wrong body. I had to force myself to process a multitude of trauma all on my own with no one medically licensed to help me.
Had I not been wise enough to consider that trauma responses could be mistaken as symptoms of gender dysphoria (maybe even sometimes the root cause of gender dysphoria in some cases) I could've made the biggest mistake of my entire life because transitioning WAS WRONG FOR ME.
If not for the voices of #detransitioners and sensible people willing to explore the topic without immediately shutting down anything deemed by trans activists as "hate speech" or transphobia, I would have been clueless as to what I was getting into if I injected myself with T.
If not for incredible trans people like @UpperhandMars @marcus_dib @MsBlaireWhite and @BuckAngel who were willing to push back against the destruction of necessary gatekeeping in the trans community instead of merely accepting and validating every identity, I might not be here.
Medical transition should not be the only path. It should not be the trial by fire of "trying it on for size" to see if it helps and ruining your body with irreversible effects just to realize your mistake. It is NOT for everyone. So why do we treat it like it absolutely is?
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