Thread by @bravelyworded

you don’t have to perform to make someone love you and commit to you. #thread

Love extends from who you are. Not what you do.

You don’t get a grade for how well you do what your lover tells you to do (unless that’s something both consented to)

Your lover is not your parent or guardian. You are responsible for healing from childhood wounds.

It’s stressful attempting to rise to the expectations created in your head. Expectations no one required of you but you.

#reminder you don’t have to perform for love to love you. You don’t have to become another person, a fragment of yourself. You are not required to dim your light or become a robot. Release the expectation to live for the love of another human being. Release it daily.

Learn to love yourself. Self-love, self-acknowledgement, self-worth. Spend time with yourself. Be with YOU.

How do you do that? So glad you asked:

1. Start with the acknowledgement and belief that you are worthy. Nothing and no one can diminish, detract or separate you from your worth. Your worth is inherent.

Infuse that fact into how you flow daily.

2. Include yourself in your day, not merely your task list.

3. Be present today. Tomorrow takes care of itself. Today is what we have. Don’t miss the opportunity to fully be present right now.

4. Acknowledge that bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness will destroy you. The other person(s) are fine.

5. Spend at least 2 days (non-consecutive) each month with yourself. Off of social media. Off of fixing problems. Off of running errands. Off of doomsday gloom.

(Right now someone is saying the following “this person must not have children or be married”)

6. Love others without expecting reciprocation. Love is not quid pro quo.

7. Evaluate your circle. Who is speaking into your life? Who is your 2am emergency room person? Who tells you the truth? Who inspires you? Who accepts you as you are? Who is your confidant? (and vice versa) Who is an energy stealer?

8. Stop consuming non-stop news and negativity. Be more intentional about who and what you listen to. and with that being said…

9. Brain dump the crap out of your mental space twice a day. Midday and nighttime. This will help protect against rumination and procrastination.

10. Do something to improve the community. Examples are a donation, a fun run, or activities that promote increased quality of life.

There’s so much more I could tweet. Instead, this is another reminder to inundate yourself with love and acceptance. Time is short. Live deep and wide. ❤️

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