Thank you all who've sent me congratulations for Bloody Hell! reaching its funding goal! So happy! I'm delighted that the world will have an anthology on the menopause transition by an absolute stellar lineup of contributors--from around the world and cis, nonbinary and trans.
I found out almost by chance that perimenopause–the time leading up to menopause–could last up to 14 yrs. At first, I thought “Are you fucking kidding me?” And that quickly turned to “How the hell did I not know that?” How was a feminist like me so ignorant about menopause?
And now that we seem to be going through a "menopause moment/revolution/wave" etc, it is exactly when the once-whispered moves into the mainstream that it most matters who is speaking the once unsaid and who continues to be sidelined and silenced.
As a feminist of colour who often must write what she has long wanted to read, I know what it’s like to rarely see yourself during those “moments,” “waves,” and “movements.”
Too often when feminism takes that brave dive into the deep end of a taboo, it takes along just a select few: white, wealthy, cisgender, heterosexual, able-bodied women.
I subscribe to the Poem a Day from the Academy of American Poets and I love that this one, Menopause by C. Prudence Arceneaux, was one of them. I highly recommend listening to the poet read her poem! poets.org/poem/menopause#Menopause
And I especially love the About This Poem, especially this:
"Because, what is life without some derailing sexual desires?”
—C. Prudence Arceneaux #Menopause
What if menopause isn’t a reckoning with losing what patriarchy had told us made cis women powerful–youth, fertility–and that instead of feeling we’ve been rendered invisible because what made us desirable to patriarchy is now “lost,” we feel instead that we’re finally visible?
Visible in all the ways that during our youthful, “fertile” yrs, we most defied patriarchy & so patriarchy had tried its best to erase those of us who refused to obey, who refused the “power” of motherhood, and we know that we’re now finally ungovernable?
I have been eager to get here, to #Postmenopause finally!
The past five years of #Perimenopause were some of the most difficult of my life.
When they say the #Menopause transition is like puberty in reverse, it is no lie.
I remember how overwhelmed by it all 11.5yo me was when I first got my period--the physical changes, yes, and also just as hard the emotional and mental changes.
When I was 13 and then when I was 16, I had my first experiences of depression. They were difficult years.
Necessary to see more people with huge platforms talk about #menopause.
"There is not a lot of conversation about menopause. I'm going through it, and I know all of my friends are going through it. And the information is sparse," Michelle Obama.
"I never used to weigh myself. I'm not trying to stick to numbers, but when you're in menopause, you have this slow creep that you just don't realize," people.com/health/michell…#menopause
If Marjorie Taylor Greene was a Muslim, she would be in Guantanamo Bay and in shackles.
But because she is white, evangelical, and a woman--a rich one at that--Greene is instead a member of Conress in the most powerful country in the world.
White, Christian zealots used democracy to cut it at its knees by destroying the right to abortion–a right which most Americans support. feministgiant.com/p/essay-the-ha…
So successful has white supremacist patriarchy been at convincing you that you’re lucky to live in the U.S. and not Saudi Arabia or Iran, that so many of you did not pay enough attention to the theocracy that white supremacy was building right here. feministgiant.com/p/essay-dear-w…