Thread by @VABVOX

Left here this morning for work, upset after a series of exchanges with people trolling me off #TheWife's obituary in which I noted that she died suddenly. This blew up after and some journalists contacted me to talk about it. I said it had defiled her memory and my grief.
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I also said that these people with their anti-vaxxer agendas are not just benign cranks. These are dangerous people who don't care that their conspiracy theories could literally kill people--and in fact have.
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This group of folks fixating on me and infiltrating my mentions truly added to my grief. I know the COVID vaccine is not what caused The Wife to die suddenly. As I told one reporter, I had been sharing The Wife's cancer story for support and to open dialogue for others.
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So too have I been sharing my grief journey since The Wife did indeed die suddenly and we were not ready for this--she wasn't, I wasn't. Only 4 days earlier we'd been told that the cancer was receding. She was stabilizing. Her oncologist was also shocked. I miss her so much.
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No one has to engage about others' grief if they don't want to. But don't intrude on it. Don't put your political agenda on someone else's loss. Don't project. Just scroll on by if you feel tempted to say something harmful or hurtful Just realize this is someone else's life.
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Most everyone loves a love story. I am telling the story of how our amazing love story was interrupted--by #cancer, by something that went wrong in her body weakened by chemo and that we didn't get to say goodbye, kiss each other, tell each other that we will meet again.
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I feel cheated of that death she deserved, a death The Wife and I were prepared for as much as possible. I resent that she died suddenly--that she left me too soon and I couldn't protect her from whatever happened to her when I would have done anything to keep her with me.
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