Thread by @entrespire

In r’ships hurtful words/actions are said/taken. Sometimes w/ intention, or as a habit, or blinded by anger or whatever. One can forgive but one doesn’t forget. Why is it worthy for Seyran to keep fighting for this r’ship? What does love really mean to her? #YalıÇapkını/1

In earlier episodes, she made it clear if there’s no trust, there’s no love. She moved on from Yusuf solely on this principle. She still doesn’t trust Ferit w/ her heart but she loves him. Why? B/c he played savior? Made her feel special at times? Habit? #YalıÇapkını/2

He’s humiliated her so many times - I can understand why it’s difficult for her to leave the marriage - but why is her feelings shown as being love? Does she really think he’ll change? Is she another P in the making who’ll become complacent for ‘love’? #YalıÇapkını/3

She’s had a horrible male role model in Kazim but she’s also shown to be emotionally intelligent, belying her youthful age. How does she come back and interact w/ Ferit as though none of the bad happened. She smiles when he asks if they have any bad memories #YalıÇapkını/4

Unfortunately Seyran isn’t explored enough & her interactions either change for the sake of comedy or plot convenience; P is on the horizon, she has suspicions abt Sultan, but she’s still drawn to him. #YalıÇapkını/5

She may take independent steps towards a career or studies, or have strong notions abt them but there have already been many contradictions to who Seyran is. This beloved scene from 4 is one I hated. He’d just come back from banging P; this isn’t cute. #YalıÇapkını/6

Or here where they are jesting around the morning after he kisses her without her consent. The depth of her words about her abuse forgotten. #YalıÇapkını/7

Or here where she’s shown ogling at Ferit the morning after his disgusting act of calling Yusuf into their bedroom & asking if they’d slept together. Or them dancing the next day after she lies to cover his scandal w/ P #YaliÇapkını/8

Or her quiet acceptance of a run in w/ P at the store after her regal departure the night before. #YakıÇapkını/9

I support all her reticence in taking their r’ship to the next level but I just don’t like how her character is treated as a plot convenience. Despite all her principles & past trauma, she still falls for a cad, choosing to trust the flashes of good he shows. #YalıÇapkını/10

Digging into her poorly written character frustrates me. I can readily focus on her intentions where she resists being controlled, vies for independence, but detest how she becomes increasingly complacent w/ Ferit’s flaws #YalıÇapkını/11

Initially I’d thought Seyran was a contrast to P, whose inner strength helps to ‘tame’ Ferit. That’s not been the case & it’s unfortunate that I don’t see this pattern ever changing. Today it’s an obsession w/ P; tomorrow it’ll be something else #YalıÇapkını/12

If this story was going to be about how Seyran learns to fly solo, the build up should never have been promoted as being rooted in love. Just as she/Suna learnt to accept her father’s abuse, is the takeaway that we see how she learns to accept psychological abuse? #YalıÇapkını/13

The theme song when Seyran wakes up Ferit’s arms in 15 is “Umutsuz Aşk” ~ hopeless love. Is this what we are to be watching - her hopeless love for a seemingly golden boy? #YalıÇapkını/14

I realized today that the reason I shy away from analyzing Seyran is b/c, for all her spirit, she’s still a caged bird, slowly getting trained to sing a fed tune. And a lot of it’s through inconsistent writing. In this cage, she can’t be happy w/o Ferit changing #YaliÇapkını/15

I like to focus on the ways Ferit could be changing b/c it gives hope for a meaningful union. Understanding Seyran is an extension of so many of us who grew up in patriarchal societies. Maybe the depth of abuse wasn’t the same, but the framework was. #YalıÇapkını/16

She represents the reality so many of us wish to escape. What’s the joy in confirming the dire nature of her life, w/ no hope for better, unless she accepts yet another life wound in the form of Ferit? #YalıÇapkını/17

So, again, I wonder what does love mean for Seyran. Is she just infatuated w/ Ferit & this marriage is a waypoint for better things to come? For now, I just don’t see how Ferit can ever complete her & be a worthy partner, even if he’s committed to a psych facility #YalıÇapkını/18