#MaritalRape thread.
Woke fake book throwers wont like this thread, because it is not based on emotion or perception, it is based on the reality lawyers and cops see everyday.
Domestic violence and sexual abuse laws in India are heavily and unfairly skewed against men. 1/n cont
I recently came across a POCSO case where 17 yrs 10 months old daughter accused her father and uncle of molestation. Defendants were jailed immediately, lost case in lower court .
Girl had a love affair that family objected to and she screwed them. 2/n cont
3/n #maritalrape#pocso
Mother's testimony , cross examination, five years of appeals and behind the scenes negotiations , finally the innocent accused walked free.
We see many many cases where wife accuses in-laws of dowry harassment, domestic violence, sexual abuse etc.
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4/n #maritalrape#domesticviolence
In fact some lawyers use those as routine strategy. It is alarming to see how much exisiting women and child safety laws are exploited. So before forced sex with a spouse is criminalised, a lot of checks and balances need to be put in place.
In IPC, Only woman can be rape victim! And only a male can be sexual assaulter/abuser .
Before adding more laws, exisiting Rape laws must first be reformed first to be gender neutral, and to reflect 21st century India.
Concept of Marital Rape
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6/n #maritalRape is such a slippery slope. Between a married couple consent is the default. Objections are impossible to define, quantify, qualify, difficult to prove OR disprove . Ultimately, this will become another tool for disgruntled wives in India.
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7/n Everything should not be reduced to theory and rulebooks.
Relationships cannot thrive under Damocles' sword.Marriage is a contract where many clauses are unwritten. Raising children, sharing responsibility, and yes, loving each other are the basic tenets ! #maritalrape cont
8/n #maritalRape
If a persistent man can be criminalised for not staying away, then shouldn't there be similar legal recourse for denial of his conjugal rights.
If a man refuses to pay the family bills, will the wife forcing him be held for extortion? NO. That's the bias.
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Met Vijayalakshmi's family in the hospital, offered them all help. They are just three broken women, cornered , paranoid, tragic. I have worked with Usha, attended her marriage , watched her life unravel. Couldn't even recognise her yesterday.
A heartfelt thank you to Gayathri Raguramm who had made arrangements for their medical care yesterday. I do not believe there are political motivations behind her timely help. The first step is to save vijayalakshmi's life. We can debate the veracity of her claims later.
Now for the inconvenient truth- I listened to Usha explain their travails for nearly an hour. Every sentence was about two persons. She made several serious allegations, but unfortunately, could not corroborate them. A lot of details didn't fit.