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Jan 21, 2023 34 tweets 15 min read Read on X
OBJECTIVITY ~ when emotions run high, human beings lose sight of this. #SeyFer displays this in copious amounts & so do the tired fans who are spent from watching the seemingly same rigamarole for 18 weeks. Here’s my analysis 🧵 for Ep 18 #YalıÇapkını/1 Image
We are still reeling from Ferit’s psychotic skit w/ P in 17, when it got piled on w/ his altercation w/ Serter, screaming spree w/ P over phone, & another explosive argument w/ Seyran, during which he even sends Ifakat packing #YalıÇapkını/2
Separated by time & less emotional investment in the characters, here’s my interpretation. Ferit had been in a toxic relationship for 3 yrs. Neither grew from e/o & both exploited the other’s weaknesses to hold onto what they needed. #YalıÇapkını/3
Ferit can’t deal w/ abandonment & P has untold daddy issues to make herself a slave to a man. He exploits her insane need to be validated; she exploits his need to have a doormat who’d listen since no one in the family does. #YalıÇapkını/4
One doesn’t get out of such toxicity one fine day just b/c something better/more meaningful came along. Ferit made promises to P, she was at his beck & call for 3 yrs; they have shared history since adolescence. They know e/o hot buttons well #YalıÇapkını/5
P understood at the mountain house that she’s lost Ferit; more so after he forgets all about her when reunited w/ his family/ Seyran at hospital in 14. She starts her game of seeming unavailable w/ the sole purpose of getting him back. #YalıÇapkını/6
She manipulates Serter to feel sorry for her & put up a front against Ferit. She knows if Ferit feels she’s no longer his slave or in danger, she’d reel him back. We understand this toxicity in Ep5/18. Her intentions are most unsaintly. #YalıÇapkını/7
These two have had many cycles of mutually toxic behavior w/ eo & Ferit pushing her incessantly in 17 was to understand whether she’s really moved on. He pushed her to say there wasn’t anything physical w/ Serter which means she’s still true to him. #YalıÇapkını/8
Her games usually brought him back to her bed, the only way she knows to satisfy him but that didn’t happen. Ferit isn’t lying when he says he isn’t doing it out of jealousy. He says again that she can move on but just not w/ this guy. #YalıÇapkını/9
In his convo w/ Abi, he also says P needs time to move on but not w/ Serter. Ferit judges ppl quickly & correctly. Same way he knew Seyran would be different for him from the first moment he saw her. Some folks are instinctive that way. #YalıÇapkını/10
Same way he didn’t trust Defne, especially after he started suspecting #OrKat. He felt she’s here to stir trouble in the family & that he or Seyran will be used as a tool. Salak Ferit has limited vocabulary & dissolves into screaming/hitting #YalıÇapkını/11
I’m not going to give a clinical diagnosis, but Ferit is definitely neuro-divergent (as opposed to neuro-typical). He processes the same stimulus differently than average. I’ve multiple family members w/ neuro-divergence & can characterize some symptoms #YalıÇapkını/12
They create a reality of their own others can’t easily dissuade. It takes many tools including cognitive behavioral therapy to get them to self-reflect & take responsibility for their actions. They will suck in caring sane ppl around them into their inner hell #YalıÇapkını/13
The care network around him will also need to learn tools to cope w/ him. Seyran’s caught in this storm right now w/ no structured knowledge on how to really reach him. They keep fighting about the same things b/c he processes things in a narrow fashion. #YalıÇapkını/14
Discovery of #OrKat has brought him to the edge & his temper is explosive. All he can do is scream about what he doesn’t like. Seyran is like a precious treasure for him but he doesn’t know to care about her feelings. He wants her to love him. #YalıÇapkını/15
But he doesn’t know how to build true love. His one relationship is toxic, many dalliances & a disgusting physical history w/ Sultan which we are still in the dark about. Orhan is a spineless coward, who wants to deny everything if the truth comes out #YalıÇapkını/16
Despite knowing that Ferit knows, both #OrKat continue their authoritarian rule w/ him, putting the responsibility on his shoulder to keep things hidden. His father figure is a failure, his mother is an escape artist who’s sweet but accepts being a trophy wife #YalıÇapkını/17
His one developing constant is Seyran & he wants to protect it. He doesn’t want her sullied by the ugliness of Istanbul high society but one can’t do this through oppression. He folds during Kazim’s monologue. Why? #YalıÇapkını/18
He doesn’t react at all at the personal digs Kazim makes at him about his idle life, lack of intelligence etc. When Kazim mentions Gulgun’s gilded caged life, he can’t bear becoming the same as Orhan even if it no longer protects Seyran. #YalıÇapkını/19
I don’t say any of this to excuse Ferit’s uncontrolled behavior. The writer has him say & do unforgivable things. Repeated threats on Seyran using Kazim & saying what he does about P are words he can never take back. #YalıÇapkını/20
He needs to outgrow such temper tantrums & he needs to be shown to see what he reduces Seyran to w/ his horrible, self-serving, misogynistic choices. But from experience I know that until he is really afraid of losing Seyran, his patterns will continue. #YalıÇapkını/21
He still thinks Kazim can be bought & Seyran’ll stay b/c of opportunities bought by being a Korhan. Until he truly believes she’s next to him b/c she loves him for who he is, he’ll keep doing stupid things. He doesn’t understand her at all. #YalıÇapkını/22
Afra as Seyran has been phenomenal. Her growing feelings for Ferit shows that she cuts through the noise to see his soul, has a vague understanding of his mental struggles & b/c she honors her marriage, she hopes he’ll learn from her examples. #YalıÇapkını/23
Her only real trigger is P b/c that snake represents a constant reminder for why her marriage doesn’t become more real. She can’t trust Ferit until he fully commits to her. In his delusional mind he’s no longer physically involved w/ P but it’s not enough. #YalıÇapkını/24
P has become a trauma point for Seyran & the way she expresses this in 18 is mind-boggling. She’s exhausted from Ferit’s constant badgering while he’s unwilling to sever ties w/ P. She doesn’t care about any reason for that to continue. #YalıÇapkını/25
#Seyfer keeps reacting to each other’s hot buttons & they are yet to learn how to work around them. They still use them to provoke eo. Ferit doesn’t see Seyran’s reaction to P as jealousy b/c he doesn’t believe in her love for him. #YalıÇapkını/26
He sees it as a continuation of his family’s oppression where everything has to be by their rules. Seyran has been hesitant about letting him into her personal space. Even though he had the promise of an amazing night he lost that chance w/ Serter/P #YalıÇapkını/27
Neither #SeyFer can breathe in their current situation. The script is going around in circles & overdosing on P, whose character & actor are weak but both make too much unwanted noise. That needs to be finished if the series wishes to hold onto this audience. #YalıÇapkını/28
If Ferit’s to have a real chance w/ Seyran, the door to P needs to close permanently. Similarly w/ Yusuf. These kids need a real chance at building their marriage. They have enough psychological damage to heal w/o nuisance plots. #YalıÇapkını/29
The audience will be far more engaged in watching them heal with & towards eo instead of constantly yelling over the same nonsensical, superfluous characters. That’s the power #AfMer has built that’s vastly underutilized right now #YalıÇapkını/30
As Ferit says, words & actions are different. But harsh words create its own language that leads to horrible actions. Ferit is poorly explained in how #SeyFer scenes are being written & viewers can’t always fill in the gaps. #YalıÇapkını/31
For a predominantly female audience, many of whom face oppression in our daily lives, watching an uncontrolled young man throw his weight around makes it hard to be objective about why he’s doing what he’s doing. #YalıÇapkını/32
Instead of lecturing us about how childhood patterns repeat & we gravitate towards our mother/father figures in partners, write a screenplay that explains through better dialogue. Constant shouting is very off-putting & kills any objectivity about the production. #YalıÇapkını/33
If not for the phenomenal performances by #AfraSaraçoğlu & #MertRamazanDemir, the viewers would have dispersed a long time ago because the script has been recursive & boring. The cast&crew are very hardworking; hope it's honored w/ a strong script #YalıÇapkını/34

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Apr 25, 2023
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In r’ships hurtful words/actions are said/taken. Sometimes w/ intention, or as a habit, or blinded by anger or whatever. One can forgive but one doesn’t forget. Why is it worthy for Seyran to keep fighting for this r’ship? What does love really mean to her? #YalıÇapkını/1
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He’s humiliated her so many times - I can understand why it’s difficult for her to leave the marriage - but why is her feelings shown as being love? Does she really think he’ll change? Is she another P in the making who’ll become complacent for ‘love’? #YalıÇapkını/3
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There are 🧵 on Ferit’s psychological disorder, most likely Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). I’m not a trained psychologist; I don’t find his charlacterization or plots to be consistent enough to provide a clinical perspective on his character #YalıÇapkını /1
Taking surface elements from NPD & transposing them onto Ferit or how he affects people around him is a rather irresponsible approach to highlighting the problem, IMO. Either do it with full integrity with clinical consultants on staff or write a good drama #YalıÇapkını/2
My analyses will stay away from trying to provide clinical perspectives. I focus on the actors’ interpretations of their roles & a plot coherence that’s defensible. #YalıÇapkını/3
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