@chayykay@Am_Yisroel_Chai I was discussing girl boss with someone and they said, Why does a woman with significant professional success call herself a girl, a child? It’s a silly name. I guess it’s ha ha, a woman can do things. Feminism is too old for this “chiddush.”
@chayykay@Am_Yisroel_Chai It is an insta thing and I think part of it goes hand in hand with #selfcare which is: you feel guilty because you know you should be taking care of your children, we will cheer you on to overcome your guilt.
People who can pick their own 6 month old out of a lineup are either woefully neglecting themselves or aren’t changing the world selling diet pills like you do. 💪🏻
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I think only a woman can say this. So I will. The ultra-Orthodox community is already far along in a changing mindset where not preventing the birth of children is not a given at all, where human calculations of strength and finances *already* dominate a decision making process
that was once not a decision making process at all. In a time of unprecedented prosperity, where fewer and fewer women do not work outside the home, we have adopted the attitude of the secular world around us to child bearing.
The thread I’ve always wanted to write. Seeing the reduction in Israeli Haredi TFR emboldened me to write about what I’ve been wanting to for a long time.
Blimi Marcus and Chochmat Nashim as well as many other frum ladies on Instagram will praise abortion, will lament Roe and tell awful stories that make anyone feel bad for thinking killing babies is a bad idea.
Ask yourself this: Why don’t they talk more about contraception? Their desire is to liberate the oppressed women of Torah Judaism. Isn’t that the first step?
One child is really getting on my nerves. I have refrained from snapping at them a bunch of times already. I had to leave the room because I can’t anymore.
I left. I came back. They didn’t stop. I started laughing. “Why are you laughing?” 🤣
Now, cookies.
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I often thought and worried about what I will *do* when the kids grow up. Do I have other interests? (No I can only talk about diapers. Nothing else.) And I have so many answers to that.
But I didn’t think, how could I really, Who will I *be* without tiny ones who truly need me?
Am I the young adult I was before kids? I don’t even remember the post high school pre-marriage me. It’s a blur. I remember my 13 year old self with very many specific and strongly held opinions and dreams, sure of everything. I have thought recently about what she would think
of me now. I am not really sure I know, not totally sure I care. There was so much I didn’t know then that I know now. Maybe the certainty is appealing.
@chayykay The frum world is in denial about how much secular culture regarding women and motherhood has already been absorbed into the furthest right enclaves of our society. Chochmat Nashim thinks it hasn’t gone far enough, but the average frum person does not realize how far
we are from normative frum culture of the 1990’s, when a woman who worked was supposed to add in, “But I wish I was home.”
The Instagram movement to normalize abortion among frum women, like Blimi Marcus on Twitter, is another example. Specific situations require a response, always did. Those are fact-specific and private. Endorsing abortion as an idea is anti-Torah and is already a strong force in