Please use #DignityForBrianna instead of using hashtag SayHerName to mourn Brianna Ghey. That hashtag is for Black folks killed by police violence, for that community to mourn & fight. We white folks shouldn’t steal it, especially as all of us (not just white folks) are mourning.
First, after listening Black folks, the issue is how quickly white people coopted the use of this hashtag. Second, how white folks got angry when this was pointed out, and would rather argue then listen, which feeds to drain us both of energy and ability to mourn. Third - (2/3)
We are not fighting for Brianna's name to even be heard, she made news. The hashtag is for Black women who were ignored by mainstream. Brianna is being discussed. We are fighting for her dignity in death, her ability to be seen as herself, and for this to not happen again.
To those of you saying THIS IS A PSYOP BY 4CHAN, they are using it to stoke division between trans and Black communities. But they want conflict, but that doesn't mean DON'T LISTEN. It means, instead of making it a THING, just use a different hashtag and show you listened.
The response isn't to say 4CHAN UNDERSTANDS HOW BREAKDOWNS IN SOLIDARITY HAPPEN, its to say... oh, lets actually just use one of the TONS of other hashtags for Brianna like #HerNameisBrianna and show you work to form solidarity, not division. It's actually very simple.
All this nonsense prevents us from mourning Brianna and actually fighting for pertinent issues. And it's not the fault of Black folks coming forward with earnest criticism; it is the failure of people to just listen and use a different hashtag.
What is stoking division is not listening, & it prevents us from fighting and actually mourning. I've seen more people pissed off about this hashtag drama than about actually fighting for Brianna. Go donate to this fundraiser, and listen to BIPOC. gofundme.com/f/brianna-ghey
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I made a single tweet today. A single damn tweet because I saw friends of mine in actual pain and disillusionment cause of how certain voices were put down. But then, after one tweet, I’m somehow “uncaring about trans murder, ruining the discourse, ect…”
And my tweet was just expressing “hey, maybe use another hashtag.”. That’s it, it’s that fucking simple. It’s easy to do actually. But nope, this because the god damn topic of the day. People just want drama.
Wanna know what I did with my day? I was on a fundraiser that raised 27k for trans folks. I gave $100 of my money to Brianna’s family donations. I was on a show talking trans issues with real callers. So screw you with this “Im online sjw trans who doesn’t care about real work.”
I have people who send their audiences to me saying "take the L" after they disingenuously frame my POV. No, I will not. It's not about winning. Trans people are dying, it's about fighting to thrive. They say "I make trans folks look bad" but wanna know what looks bad? (1/2)
What looks bad is when you air straw man grievances in public for content, putting down fellow creators to get clicks instead of building community. This is not praxis nor fighting for our safety. It's doing what those in power want us to do &using their system to harm ourselves.
And it angers me when people in my community supposedly say "take the L" when they have only discussed me as the made-up version of myself and trans people pushed by mainstream media to help create a narrative that only props up a transphobe's platform.
I’m so damn tired of the constant manufactured disingenuous framing of my words constantly. It goes from BuzzFeed and Bloomberg all the way down to streamers. This is why I make 3 he vids, so I’m CLEAR about my points. Yet people just want the “ANGRY PURITANICAL TRANS” narrative.
Then when I speak up about it, I’m told I’m “doing harm to the community” but bringing it up, as if I’m not allowed to defend myself from people falsely using mg words. It’s gaslighting, angering and isolating at a time when trans people need community. Fucking angering.
As I said, all this has shown me who my and trans peoples real community is. Just hurts to see folks who I thought would be better disappoint you so much. It wouldn’t hurt so much I hadn’t believed in or trusted them in the first place. Feels like Rowling all over again.
🧵So, be honest. I'm doing ok now. But these past 48 hours have been deeply emotionally difficult. I dealt with a lot of harassment using a franchise that once was close to me. I had death threats and endless dehumanization. And I'm not the only trans person who did. (1/5)
Worse, I saw others signal or even say they didn't care. Or blame me for themselves feeling conflicted about wanting to play a game, saying I was calling them a bigot... which I did not. I said don't claim to be an ally. Why you did. Besides the point. Anyways- (2/5)
It has just been a lot. Angering, painful, horrid. Most of all... demoralizing & depressing. Hate set off by a goddamn game. As if you owe your attention to a game over people's well-being. Disappointing and saddening. Childish.
As a trans advocate and person, I am not here to tell you if you’re a good or bad person. I am not here to moralize for you or at you. I don’t want that big, nor is it my job. My job is tell you about how trans lives are impacted by society & your potential choices within them.
I will tell you the harm that is caused or could be caused. I will tell you about the things that can help us. I will share you my experience and uplift the voices of others as best I can. I will share my joys. I will tell you how I feel. What you do with that is on you.
And if my tell you my feelings, or explaining to you the harm that supporting something/someone will cause my community that you may wish to support, and you take that as me telling you that you are a bad person; that’s something YOU need to analyze. Not me.
"ACTIVISTS ARE CALLING US TRANSPHOBES FOR BUYING HARRY POTTER! IM NOT A BAD PERSON; I JUST WANNA PLAY A WIZARD GAME."
Buying HP stuff doesn't make you a transphobe. What IT IS saying is that you care more for entertainment than trans people. It says you're not an ally.
HOW DARE ANYONE IMPUNE ON MY MORAL PURITY AS A PERSON! SCREW YOU.
People desire to be told they aren't bad and can't cause harm/support harmful systems. It causes an existential crisis that often resolves by blaming the person who makes them feel bad; IE a marginalized person.
I'm not here to coddle your sense of moral purity. I'm trans, and I'm not going to make myself smaller or quieter so that you feel good about existing in, ignoring, and sometimes, even without desiring to, directly supporting a system that directly harms trans people.