There’s a masculine and feminine way to parent. The goal is to have polarized, integrated parenting. Not emasculated fathers and masculinized mothers. twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
Each parent needs to do both masculine & feminine parenting, when appropriate.
(based on polyvagal theory)
A lot of mothers will get hardened by a de-polarized parenting system & fathers become passive & aloof. Resentment & disrespect will build. Intimacy will erode.
You’re probably wondering:
How do you fix the overbearing wife, passive husband trap?
Here’s a tip👇🏽
If you want a more feminine wife/mother of your children or a more masculine husband/father of your children, you need polarized, integrated parenting.
Giving her reprieve from her rigorous duties is a necessity (not a luxury) that helps her balance her energy & nervous system…… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
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How to tell if they’re “the one” you want to commit to? ⬇️
"The One" you want to commit to, get vulnerable with (the one you take a leap of faith on) is the one who regulates your nervous system. NOT the one who destabilizes you!
It's important you don't confuse "safe" with avoidant or complacent.
Safe means:
• You're emotionally & physically safe in each others presence
• You're secure in your attachment
• Your connection is constructive, not destructive
At first she just got inspired by my tweet and made it her own (not bothered by that) but then she decided to lazy copy it as her own on Instagram. It’s just not necessary, quote someone and credit them when you post their content. @elegantfeminine. Just checked & she’s gone now.