I’m also nonbinary and my pronouns are they/them. Please don’t “she” me.
This month, Autism Month, I’m going to be debunking some of the Autism myths I encounter online and in the real world. So, let’s go!
First myth: “Autism ends at 18” or we “grow out” of being Autistic. 👎
Reality: Autistic adults exist, though often our struggles become less pronounced as we mature and learn skills that help us to cope in the world.
Myth 2: “Autism is most common in boys” 🚫
Reality: Boys have been disproportionately represented, often ignoring people of other genders.
Social pressure is often greater for women and AFAB people and boys are often given a pass (boys will be boys) for things girls could never get away with.
It’s not that more boys are Autistic . Really, other genders of Autistics (and those who are multiply marginalized) frequently face additional pressure to blend in, and therefore pick up more complex coping and camouflaging skills to keep themselves safe.
Myth 3: Autistic People don’t wear makeup. 🙈
Reality: Just like nonAutistics, some of us wear makeup and some don’t.
However, if makeup becomes one of our interests, we can be quite good at it.
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Autistic People (ONLY) - how do you feel about "Autism Month?"
Autistic People live Autistic lives year-round. We're not here for "just a month" - we are ALWAYS Autistic every day.
Today is April 1st. In addition to being April Fools Day (which I don't personally celebrate), April 1st is the first day of "Autism Month" (formerly Autism Awareness Month, now Autistic Acceptance Month in many circles).
I have many feelings about April, watching it come and go since I first learned that I am Autistic over six years ago. My first April knowing my Autistic brain, I was naively excited about having a month to talk about Autism.
As you may know, March 31st is International Transgender Day of Visibility. It's one day full of celebration of transgender people as we rejoice in being proud of who we are.
Additionally, this day is about raising awareness of discrimination, bigotry, and hatred faced by transgender people worldwide.
Visibility is intentional defiance when people hate you and want you to make yourself small.
Trans Day of Visibility is not just a celebration of being trans and belonging to such a vibrant, beautiful community, but doing so despite society's messages that we should be ashamed of who we are.
Ever since I cam out trans in the summer of 2020, I’ve had a group of cishet nonAutistic parents complaining about how I “shouldn’t talk about” LGBTQIA2+ issues “on an autism page”.
They have a few constant arguments why they feel I shouldn’t talk about these issues:
The first claim they made is about “social contagion” - they claimed that my Autistic readers “are vulnerable and may be confused” or “can’t understand” this type of content.
They claim I am “tricking vulnerable” Autistics into “thinking they’re Queer”.
The second complaint I see from this group is they believe that being trans/Queer & being Autistic “are not connected”.
When Autistic People are more likely to be members of the LGBTQIA2+ community, these parents oppose taking about the intersectional nature of these identities.