Every femicide in the sex trade warrants action and no country is doing enough to stop men using lethal violence against women in #prostitution. But the radio silence on the recent case of a woman murdered in a German apartment brothel, compared to the Irish case is deafening.
I don't think anyone can prove their case on what policy is better based on homicide data alone because as far as I'm aware no country is tracking murders of women in prostitution specifically. The cases and survivor reports we do have indicate lethal violence is a concern always
In any country, call it "legalization", "liberalization" or "decrim" women in #prostitution are given advice on how to not get robbed, raped, and murdered on the job from organizations that speak of #sexwork. Clearly, it remains a significant concern under all models of law.
Murders of women in prostitution happen in every sector of the trade - streets, brothels, escorting - and are consistently mostly perpetrated by johns & pimps. Granted johns are the biggest group of men women interact with. Still this means fearing the customer as part of the job
In every country, no matter the law, men who rob, batter, rape, and kill women in #prostitution are very often the same ones who purchase access to their bodies on the regular. A mentality of women as emotional, physical, and sexual punching bags abounds.
In every country, no matter the law, the sex trade is largely clandestine cause johns want it so. They are often in relationships or otherwise have a reputation to protect. Women in relatively anonymous apartments are the norm (though if you know where, you can find them online).
Murders also happen in very visible prostitution establishments with security systems and many people who know what goes on inside reduxx.info/netherlands-me… so it's not that making it slightly less clandestine stops lethal violence, but still apartments remain the preferred form.
The pro-prostitution lobby argues the best response to is women not "working" alone best enabled by removing all related bureaucracy so you can open an apartment brothel anywhere anytime. I agree women shouldnt be punished for sharing apartments but this too doesn't stop killers.
Not only is a legal but completely unregulated zero oversight apartment brothel market a gift to traffickers (see how New Zealand mini brothels have rotations of Asian women in them most of the time, certainly not feminist co-ops) there are double homicides in apartment brothels.
Many an aggressive man can take two women at once. I've read repeatedly of women who ran in to help a "colleague" being injured or killed by a man with a knife. A large number of men are also capable of killing women with their bare hands - suffocation/strangulation is not rare.
The pro-prostitution lobby refuses to acknowledge:
1) Almost all men are stronger than almost all women 2) Being naked and engaging in sex acts makes a woman inherently vulnerable 3) Prostitution is inherently dehumanizing & inspires misogynistic violence
This will never change
While I think its important to remember the individual murder victims as people as I did for 4 decades of German femicides in the sex trade here ellyarrow.wordpress.com/2021/03/29/who… The conversation that needs to happen after every homicide is not about the individual but structural situation
No country has managed to put a working security system in place for prostitution. You shouldn't need an elaborate security system when being intimate with smn. If you need one that means its not safe & something is very wrong. Rape and femicide should not be occupational hazards
I actually support harm reduction measures such as distributing condoms, self-defense classes etc. but never ever tell a woman it's up to her not to get traumatized or murdered in the sex trade (and I see a lot of that in the highly individualized #sexwork discourse).
We must phase out an industry that makes men view women as quick dehumanized sexual "relief stations", where bodies are rated down to "labia quality", where sexual boundaries are at the mercy of market forces & trends in porn and he thinks he owns her at least for the next 30 min
Read the "Why?" section of this text on #prostitution homicide in Germany to see how the idea that he gets to kill her is an escalation of the basic misogynistic sexual entitlement and the idea of women as "born greedy nymphos" that underpins the industry. ellyarrow.wordpress.com/2021/03/29/who…
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Reading about legal experts and sexologists who work with child rapists repeatedly going "oh, if they'd just pay someone 18+ for it, it's totally fine!" and the totally fine thing is cutting someone's skin or keeping someone in a basement for a dozen men a day. I'm furious.
Women in prostitution are not sponges for rape and abuse. Not only are men very capable of raping both their stepdaughter and the barely 18-year-old woman at the brothel, a disproportionately large number of women in the sex trade are themselves child sexual abuse survivors.
Some women in the sex trade have reported that men tell them "I chose you because you look like my niece/daughter/granddaughter/student". How does that make her feel esp. considering the significant chance she is a survivor of incest/child abuse? Why are "experts" endorsing this?
Having made terrible experiences with window #prostitution in Amsterdam, the city plans to build a mega-brothel euphemistically called an "erotic center" instead. 100 women in rooms plus social and health service, security, hospitality, entertainment, education & cultural events.
In Germany, we call these places "mega brothels" and we have many of them. The biggest is the Pascha brothel in Cologne with 150 individual rooms. Such places may also include strip clubs, restaurants, spaces for concerts and business meetings. None of this has made women safe.
Not only are mega-brothels dehumanizing to the women in it, presenting them often based on "flavor" as in sorted by race or transgender status, bouncers and cameras have not made them remotely safe. The Pascha in Cologne has seen drug and human trafficking + 1 murder & 2 attempts
Does your job include men you don't desire reviewing, touching and penetrating your body plus a daily fear of intimate injury, unwanted pregnancy, STIs, revenge porn, robbery, rape and murder at the hands of your clients? No? Then it's not comparable to #prostitution.
I once did an internship for a film maker and the boss made me cry within 2 days by myself in the bathroom. I guess this experience means I know what it's like to be in prostitution!! Does that make any sense? No it doesn't. Let's not pretend a desk job is remotely comparable.
I've experienced threatening and dangerous situations because of misogynistic men. This might give a little insight into what prostitution is like. But I didn't have to endure them touching me to make rent or eat and that made ALL the difference.
I actually go out of my way to not say that #prostitution is paid rape for every woman in the trade. I always say "many" or "countless" or "often". I never point to individual women and say "you were raped". That's not my place and it doesn't help anyone. What I do want is...
...for the many women who felt traumatized by johns including the not overtly violent ones, the seemingly ordinary ones, who stick to agreements to be able to trust that feeling and not be gaslit into "if this upset and haunts you, you were in the wrong profession".
I do think johns should be criminalized cause I think exploitation is the rule not the exception. But additional acts of violence (robbery, strangling, sudden assault etc) should carry additional sentences which is my understanding of the implementation of the abolitonist model.
I know this isn't a scientific study but I just wanna get a vague sense of what sadistic "sex" acts present in the legal German sex trade people think are harmless and what shouldn't be normalized and possibly illegal.
Let's start with hitting to the point of brusing.
Strangulation which btw is never fully safe and always carries a certain level of risk of brain injury and death
Making smn drink urine?
I know I struggle to even see this as a sex act... there's no stimulation of anything but sadism??
Some people are calling me a liar for saying the commercial sexual exploitation of teenagers aged 16-17 was legal in Germany till 2008 & in Switzerland until 2013.
Now some man is defending legal CSA of 16-17 years olds saying it ain't rape. Germanys age of consent is 14 so legally he's correct. Morally however he's just exposing himself as pro nonce. Survivors of this legal child rape are adults now but they can see your comments btw.
Trying to make people have compassion for raped kids is some of the hardest work feminists have done since the first wave. When people won't even acknowledge that paid or unpaid abuse harms children it's heart wrenching even when you're not personally a survivor.