A word on the Bea Weber thread pile on agreeing that “frum women” are “so cringe.” You all took the fact that someone is different from you and turned into a mob sneering and mocking for silly reasons.
When this happens to you, you say that there is no G-d, G-d is cruel, religious people should have their children taken away from them and the state should take over their schools.
If one frum looking lady found herself in a room full of Yaffed folks she would feel extremely uncomfortable even if she had no conflict with anyone. Just for the way she looks and your preconceived notions about her.
Somehow this is not a problem. If it were someone proudly identifying as queer trying to get official recognition in an Orthodox synagogue, it would be the utter manifestation of evil on this earth.
But if it’s Yaffed sympathizers being cruel and acting like outright bigots, it’s perfectly acceptable.
#BeKind Don’t judge people you don’t know. Don’t judge them by the group they are from.
Maybe even find some tolerance in your heart for other people who fall short. #BeKind
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I don’t mute much but putting human life in quotes is not ok.
If Terry Schiavo wanted to abort her baby, these peeps would claim that she ought to be able to because her life is more important than the baby’s.
But then when Schiavo’s husband wanted her dead, they would think her life is expendable.
It’s not about women’s lives or women’s freedom. These folks didn’t speak out against women forced to labor in masks, or newborns snatched out of their mothers arms after birth because of flimsy reasons.
A little story. We made a birthday party for our 8 year old on Sunday. Someone else gave out invitations first so we made the party directly afterwards and wrote on the invitation that we will bring the children from the first party to our party.
The 8 year old tells me in the car that they refuse to invite a certain child because they are not in their class.
I didn’t understand why the child would be invited, but I like to be inclusive and the child wasn’t budging.
I read a tweet about not pressuring other people to have more children because it’s not your business.
I firmly believe in minding your own business.
But in the comments, they talk about having children too close together, too many children, not the mom, talking about others
“Live and let live” is a great idea in most cases with most things. That’s what America was culturally founded on.
But the “live and let live” today is a specific agenda. Pressure is allowed and even good in one direction, but in the other direction it’s shaming and controlling.
Let me share something. When our baby started getting a little bigger and my stage started to change, I picked my head up like I hadn’t in 20+ years, because our daughter was sick, then she passed away and then things got, thank G-d, busier.
It was like Rabi Shimon bar Yochai coming out of the cave.
Like omg is this what people do when they don’t have a little toddler and a baby and are expecting?
I began to have a little extra time and much more headspace for nonsense. And I was like, instead of bringing new life into the world, this is the frequency people live on?
I would say that I definitely do baby talk but our children are also exposed to a broad vocabulary of all words as well. It’s not that baby talk is a bad idea; it’s that limiting all interactions to baby talk is underselling your child.
Do I do high pitched nonsense talking? Most definitely.
But also one of our children told me that unlike other mothers, I use the words they learn in Vocabulary all the time.
That women, in uniquely feminine roles, are equally necessary to men and equally deserving of dignity is a more durable, less destructive, and more affirming message than the idea that women can act as men and are therefore equal.
If women are equal to men because we can also act as men it calls into question what a man is. Someone who can do math but cannot give birth? That doesn’t resonate and it’s disrespectful to men, leaves men without a defined role.
If women are equal to men because we can act as men it shortchanges children, because traditional women’s work is care of children and when women and men both fill mens’ roles, children lose out.