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Emotional dysregulation is common in #ADHD. So is emotional impulsivity, due to impaired response inhibition.

Stimuli happens, we respond. No pause in which to consider if it’s a good idea.

What this means is we react with raw emotion.

This is why we need help w/our brakes.
Ways to practice “braking:”

✨Use “Buy now!” or “we need an answer now!” as a cue to step away. Like, auto-nope out of that sh*t, it’s predatory to those w/ADHD.

✨step away when emotions rise quickly, before “point of no return”

✨ practice pausing in lower stakes situations
Meditation can be really useful for this.

Not because it quiets our minds (it doesn’t) but because we get to practice having thoughts and feelings come up

✨ and not acting on them ✨

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May 24
Okay so I’m having a slight…existential crisis?

I finished my book

I understand ADHD on a deeper level than ever

I have a full toolbox

…I was really good at learning about my brain. And now I can go back to doing…the part I was bad at

Living my life

I’m terrified
I’m really hoping I’ve learned enough

That the tools will help

That I won’t be absolutely awful at it this time

Also…what kind of content do I do for the channel now?

I learned a lot I’ll share from writing the book, but…after that?

What else should I learn & share?
I understand my impairments, why I struggle; I recognize my invisible obstacles now.

I want to learn about other stuff now…like, how to build a life in line with my values. Is that still How to ADHD? Applying the tools as I build?

Nothing is as clear anymore and it’s scary.
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May 16
It is far past time for stigma about ADHD stimulants to subside.

They are:

✨not addictive when taken as prescribed
✨highly effective for most w/ADHD w/minimal side effects
✨out of our system quickly
✨stimulants. Like…caffeine. They don’t get us high, they help us work.
Can they be abused? Yes. Some are specifically designed to minimize this risk, but some are not.

Be misprescribed? Yes. Vast discrepancy of care for adult ADHD.

But most of what I see as an expert is how devastating the lack of access ✨already is✨ for those who need them
The answer, for anyone concerned, is better access to, & guidelines for, care for adult ADHD (currently being drafted by APSARD in the US)

The more we decrease access, the more common it will be for those who don’t need these meds to obtain them more easily than those who do.
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Mar 25
One of the more interesting aspects of ADHD is shorter time horizons. Things feel like they’re either “now” or “not now” & if they’re “not now,” they don’t exist.

Deadlines don’t feel real until they’re almost on top of us, which can make it hard to kick ourselves into gear…
I have tricks for starting on projects even before the deadline feels real, but there’s one thing I still struggle with:

I’m 5 days out from my book deadline and I still don’t believe I’ll ever be done.

Finishing is in the not-now…which means it doesn’t exist
I feel like I’m operating on pure faith.

I remember doing that in high school, too, on days where everything was overwhelming and awful:

This day will, eventually, be over, I promised myself. Because that’s how time works.

It just, doesn’t *feel* like that at the time.
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Feb 11
How my ADHD makes friendship hard

(a thread 🧵) 1/10
When I was a kid, I had a hard time fitting in. Part of this was my overt ADHD symptoms -- I’m fidgety, impulsive, have trouble waiting my turn, have trouble staying focused on activities and conversations that don’t interest me, and keep forgetting everybody’s name. (2/10)
Part of it was that there's also a developmental delay associated with ADHD -- so at 10, I had the self regulation skills of like, a 7 year old. This is why I had an easier time with adults, and kids a couple years younger than me. With my peers, I got made fun of...a lot. (3/10)
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Aug 10, 2022
My writing process:

Get started

Get a bunch of ideas down

Feel brilliant and overly confident

Go to write a full draft based on those brilliant ideas and realize it’s actually shit, this is absolute shit why did I agree to this it’s not working and I’m never gonna finish
…or if I do it’ll be terrible and everyone’s gonna know I’m a fraud

Panic

Eat cookies

Keep going

Slowly plod through the shit and rearrange it until it’s slightly … less shit …
Eventually hit the point where you realize it’s actually going to be good

Get excited, actually enjoy the rest of the writing process, and keep going with it, until you either can’t find anything else wrong with it or someone tells you you have to stop :)
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May 20, 2022
Ppl are often quick to correct those with disabilities: “don’t dis your ability! You’re capable!”

They don’t want us to be limited by our disability.

*Acknowledging and accommodating impairments makes us more able, not less.*

Imagine if I refused to admit I needed glasses?
Yes, everyone has limits to how well they can see things far away. But compared with the general population, I am extremely nearsighted. The world is not built for people who can’t see things 5 feet in front of them. If it were maybe I wouldn’t need glasses. But it isn’t, so I do
That doesn’t mean I’m not capable in a million other ways. I am. But in specific ways, I am impaired, and to the point where it can be disabling. Once I started acknowledging that, I became *more* capable because I was able to put appropriate tools and supports in place.
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