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1/🧵As a psychotherapist on the 🦠 conscious register, I’m grateful to the author of this piece.🙏🏾 SO MANY struggling privately w/these issues. I’d like to unpack a few areas that jumped out at me. ‘Wrestling with my husband's fear of getting COVID again’ npr.org/2024/03/11/123…
2 of 14 /‘All this leaves me feeling torn between two emotions. I want to keep my husband safe and healthy. But I also want our old life back.’
My response: A fundamental challenge in our culture, is the inability to grieve…
My response: A fundamental challenge in our culture, is the inability to grieve…
3 of 14/I’d like to fit into a favourite size 8 skirt (now given away) from my 20s-but my body has been through a lot since then, and I no longer wear that size. I think I’ve mostly grieved for my previous ballerina body. It would be folly…
4 of 14/…not to love and accept my capable, resilient body as it is NOW. I’m so grateful for what I have. OF COURSE-it’s (more than) OK to feel sad about a past era, but imo-we must live in the present, if we call ourselves mature adults. Life has INEXORABLY CHANGED. FULL STOP.
5 of 14/Winced at this:
"If one way doesn't work, try another way," (psych)says. "It could be writing a very heartfelt letter. You might say:I love you more than anything. I want our family to do normal things...I'm…worried that your life has become so much about avoiding COVID”
"If one way doesn't work, try another way," (psych)says. "It could be writing a very heartfelt letter. You might say:I love you more than anything. I want our family to do normal things...I'm…worried that your life has become so much about avoiding COVID”
6 of 14/My response: There’s a new normal. Based on a MOUNTAIN of undeniable science. It’s unhelpful to make this about the person wanting to maintain the health they have. To pathologise them would be akin to doing the same for drivers who wear seatbelts.
6 of 14/…What we can do instead?💡 OWN our complex grief about the losses. ACCEPT the new normal-ie-for those who don’t want to gamble their health: This IS HARD AF-for most,in a hostile, uncaring 🌎. But it IS doable! Online communities EXIST, to help anyone who wants to learn.
7 of 14/Ditto, cringed at this🥴
"Is this the life that he wants? Does he foresee an end to this? Or is this something he would like help with?That may make it easier to segue into a more productive conversation about solutions & compromise.”
My response in next linked tweet👇🏾
"Is this the life that he wants? Does he foresee an end to this? Or is this something he would like help with?That may make it easier to segue into a more productive conversation about solutions & compromise.”
My response in next linked tweet👇🏾
8/My response: As @makeupartist524 astutely tweeted recently-we cannot predict the future. If we’re conscious of our🌎 AS IT IS TODAY, we base our decisions on the science available today. ALTERNATIVELY🤷🏾♀️like the 99.9% we CAN SAY we CHOOSE to ignore science, & live like it’s 2019
9 of 14/This was hopeful (BUT⚠️)…
‘In January, we flew halfway across the world to visit family in Dubai. At first, I thought that the stringent🦠 precautions he was taking to protect himself on the ✈️ were over the top..[mitigations for travel]..he wanted to see me happy.’
‘In January, we flew halfway across the world to visit family in Dubai. At first, I thought that the stringent🦠 precautions he was taking to protect himself on the ✈️ were over the top..[mitigations for travel]..he wanted to see me happy.’
10 of 14/The ‘BUT’ in my mind: Travel✈️ with N95+😷, portable HEPA and Far UV torches fr @NukitToBeSure is now just smart. Again, I mean this, for those living in the scientifically informed reality of 2024.
11 of 14/ Given current, global policies which are OVERWHELMINGLY pro🦠 and ANTI public health, I do not foresee that this will become, ‘over the top’ anytime soon.
12 of 14/ So⚠️ the clock 🕰️ striking midnight on the last day of this year PROBABLY STILL won’t make this ‘OTT.’ Just because you’ll be able to huffily say, “it’s 2025…”
13 of 14/ We’d ALL LOVE it 🥰 if time had made a BLIND BIT OF DIFFERENCE‼️And since 2020, improving indoor air quality everywhere had been a priority!
That has NOT been the case!
That has NOT been the case!
14 of 14/Finally-we also know that repeat🦠infection causes dysfunction of the immune system. This can make it **APPEAR**as if the acute disease is now mild.
So again, based on ACTUAL REALITY (not what we WISH were true)🦠conscious folks make the best decisions we can & live!/END
So again, based on ACTUAL REALITY (not what we WISH were true)🦠conscious folks make the best decisions we can & live!/END
This feels related. Thank you, Briana.🙏🏾
https://twitter.com/thebrianamills/status/1767306207700881572
@KayCeeWrites I’m NOT saying that loneliness isn’t important. It most certainly IS! However the antidote requires a FUNDAMENTAL sense of safety-literally changes our physiology and allows us to connect with other humans. For those who can read scientific papers, THAT has been gone since 2020.
@quintessencey …cont/ and be better informed. So, I respectfully ask that you keep this in mind. You don’t know what you don’t know. Not just for me but when speaking to anyone who looks like me. Ok?
@KayCeeWrites Cont/..no way can we hang out in a packed cafe knowing what we know and just chill. Or whatever. Everything would be on-edge. The antithesis of ‘feeling safe’ oxytocin flowing state. What does this combined mess give rise to? I’m not surprised if folks are extra ‘lonely’! 🤷🏾♀️
@markira Ultimately, I guess I didn’t really write my thread for the 99.9%. Most are unreachable. WAY past being swayed by anything a random Black psych on Twitter would say (if I’m wrong on this point pls speak up)! Long gone on a party 🥳 cruise 🚢 ship over the horizon. I care abt us.
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