[Thread] These "oral sex panties" represent everything that's wrong with what @andizeisler calls "marketplace feminism." The concept: They mask your vulva's taste/smell/appearance so you can be "empowered" to "get more oral" and "close the orgasm gap." indiegogo.com/projects/loral…
[2] Their body-shaming campaign video features a woman who is about to get oral sex then remembers she worked out that day and has her period... as if that's a problem?? Do those with penises need vanilla-scented latex too so that their balls smell presentable??
[3] They claim to be "revolutionary." But they are LITERALLY invested in women's oppression continuing. If women felt good about their bodies as they are, they'd have no customers. They want us to believe we need a product that hides our bodies to enjoy sex & be liberated.
[4] The male gaze is all over their Indieogo page. One style is "cut high at the sides to lengthen your legs and show off your cheeks." Another has "moderate coverage in the front and back to maintain your mystique." Because ensuring your butt looks arousing will def help you O.
[5] They don't carry plus sizes and call size 8 and above "curvier." And they repeatedly state that women "say 'no' to oral sex when they want to say 'yes.'" Anyone else getting rapey vibes here??
[6] If they prevented STIs that would actually be cool. But they keep emphasizing that it's not FDA approved for that and is just to prevent your partner from (god forbid) seeing/smelling/tasting your vulva. I SEE YOU, PATRIARCHY.
[7] Also, they say they're designed "for women" & exclude those who have vulvas but don't identify as women — probably because their product is all about meeting conventions of femininity that say women must be dainty, spotless, pure, sweet-smelling, sexy, and hourglass-shaped.
While I'm exposing shitty "#feminist" marketing, here's the horrific story of how a "vag empowerment" spa preyed on my insecurities with a treatment that made my vagina bleed. elle.com/life-love/sex-…
Then there's this sex resort where they "worship" the women...by sexually harassing them. PR people must hate me by now for taking down all their faux-feminist bullshit 😂 elle.com/life-love/sex-…
Instead of telling women their breasts are sexy no matter their size, how about we stop sexualizing breasts?
There's room for reminding people they're capable & deserving of confidence & sex lives no matter what they look like.
But "all boobs are sexy" messaging is old & overdone & risks furthering objectification.
We get to define our body parts & decide how sexual we consider them.
Rather than focus on which features are sexy, let's remind people that sexiness comes from the inside — and, more importantly, that they don’t have to be sexy.
Has anyone had things not work out with their quarantine boo? Please DM me if you're willing to be interviewed for an article!
Still looking to talk to people who have had things not work out with their quarantine boo. DM me if that's you and you can help with an article. Thanks!
Update: I'm looking in particular for people in their 20s who had things fall apart with a quarantine boo. Let me know if you'd be willing to be interviewed for an article. Thanks!
How many people would attend an online cacao ceremony/discussion group if I held one? I've got this meetup group, which has details on how they work, and I could expand them beyond LA... meetup.com/LA-spiritual-i…
If I were to host a virtual cacao ceremony, would you prefer it be done over Facebook Live or Zoom?
All right, I'm officially hosting a virtual cacao ceremony next month! All are welcome. RSVP here: meetup.com/LA-spiritual-i…
In case you’re wondering what I’ve been doing with my quarantined time, I’ve got 152 pages of a memoir written.
It contains such lines as, “Once I ingested the San Pedro, this threesome seemed like the most important thing in the world.”
Another preview of my memoir:
“I think iboga wants me to go on Tinder,” I announced to a few other participants the next morning, a tad embarrassed that this plant spirit would have given me such seemingly unsanctimonious instructions.
Another snippet from my memoir:
"And that was the moment I knew my three-year relationship was about to end because of a 90-minute orgasm."
I don't believe in chasing people. I also don't believe in rules like "don't text someone twice in a row." Rules are for people disconnected from their hearts. Follow your heart and nothing else matters. If it says to double-text someone, do it.
Fuck "don't chase men." Sometimes men are clueless and/or scared and if you know the relationship's right, you gotta fight for it, even if that means chasing them to the end of the goddamn Earth.
Women get told don't make the first move, don't be too aggressive, you were meant to be chased.
If you take this advice, I can guarantee you'll be pursued by a lot of mediocre suitors & the ones you like will have no clue you like them bc they'll be busy w/ women who chase them.