Unpopular opinion (maybe):
That "What It's Like To Go Through Life As A Really Beautiful Women" piece could have been really good. Maybe not as an as-told-to, though.
Beauty privilege is a topic we need to discuss more.
A lot more.
That "What It's Like To Go Through Life As A Really Beautiful Women" piece could have been really good. Maybe not as an as-told-to, though.
Beauty privilege is a topic we need to discuss more.
A lot more.
The problem is that when a beautiful woman herself tries to discuss it, she's automatically accused of being self-involved and oblivious. And you know, people want to see pictures.
When a "regular" women tries to discuss is, she's accused of being jealous.
When a "regular" women tries to discuss is, she's accused of being jealous.
(And people want to see pictures of her to "prove" it.)
These reactions are damaging, even if they're well-intentioned. We *KNOW* conventionally attractive people go through life differently -- not always more easily, but yes, often that.
These reactions are damaging, even if they're well-intentioned. We *KNOW* conventionally attractive people go through life differently -- not always more easily, but yes, often that.
Studies have shown that conventionally attractive people get hired more. They get more online dating swipes/messages. They are over-represented in film, music, and print media.
I'm too lazy to go Google this, but I wouldn't be surprised if there is a study/studies that shows conventionally attractive kids/adults are treated more gently by both school disciplinary processes and the criminal justice system.
And everyone *knows* looking more attractive has advantages: money, sex, love, self-esteem, etc. THAT'S WHY THERE ARE BILLION-DOLLAR INDUSTRIES FOCUSED ON "IMPROVING" EVERYTHING ABOUT US.
So to dismiss any discussions of beauty privilege, or jealousy, especially amongst women, because it's too "shallow" or not worthy of serious examination/critique is short-sighted.
About a decade ago, I wrote an admittedly-not-go-great piece titled something like "Why Pretty Women Are Had To Be Friends With." It was about how (at the time, my post-college years) I found the really attractive women that I knew to be super-entitled.
Specifically, I felt like the few women I was referring to were used to getting what they wanted, and that had repercussions for our friendships/relationships. I'm sure I'll cringe-regret stuff that I wrote in that piece, so much so that I don't wanna go look for it.
I had hope, before I clicked, that this "Really Beautiful Woman" piece might dig a little deeper. It didn't, not really, and I've seen people mocking her on Twitter all day. But I nevertheless appreciate that this woman was willing to say, 'Yeah, it IS different.'
