Please understand that there's a difference between knowing and KNOWING (ie, understanding).
ADHDers struggle grasping consequences.
So your kids might know why they shouldn't do something but it doesn't mean they understand the reasoning behind it.
I often get questions from parents who say that their kids 'know' that something is bad but they still do it.
I always ask them how they are certain that their kids 'know'.
So your kids might 'know' that they shouldn't leave their toys out but they struggle understanding why.
Dec 12, 2020 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
We ADHDers struggle to realize things.
As in, some things don't easily occur to us.
I wanna say 'we don't notice things' but I feel thats misleading. Its not that simple.
Eg, you say hello to me and I would say hello back.
But it might not occur to me to say hello first.
I forgot to eat lunch today.
But see, its not that I actually forgot.
I felt hungry.
It just didnt occur to me to eat to sate my hunger.
Its not that I didn't notice ny hunger. Nor did I forget about food. Nor was I distracted.
Oct 19, 2020 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
One of the first steps in managing your mental health is to learning to recognize your automatic, irrational thought patterns and spirals.
Instead of being dragged along by the emotional wave, learning to keep your head above water, breathe and slowly swim towards the shore. /1
So for me, one of my common spirals was when I faced failure.
I would AUTOMATICALLY (stressed because they start off completely subconscious and automatic) start thinking:
'Of course I failed. I'm a failure after all. This is why I should never try.' /2
Oct 17, 2020 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
ADHDers are incredibly likely to have other diagnoses separate to ADHD. These comorbid conditions, can masks issues, complicating treatment.
When I started managing my depression, my ADHD symptoms 'got worse'. Depression was 'suppressing' my ADHD issues.
It really masked all of my more hyperactive symptoms. No interrupting, no rapid thoughts, no excitability, none of the ADHD chaotic-ness.
Inattentive symptoms were iffy cause depression can cause similar issues.
Aug 1, 2020 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
I had a though.
I've always perceived/ described my meds as helping me focus. But that's not technically true.
It actually makes me much less likely to be distracted.
While the outcome is the same (increases attention), I think the framing is different and more accurate.
How we percieve and think about something is massively important as it changes our expectations.
Meds don't fix all of our problems. Saying it helps focus might cause a newly diagnosed ADHDer to think it could.