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I love it when words tinkle like piano keys and hit like bricks.
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Feb 7 4 tweets 1 min read
Contrary to popular opinion, reading children books about being “trans” in school is *absolutely* indoctrination.

Why?

Kids have feelings. They have feelings about what they like and don’t like. They have feelings about their bodies and growing up …

🧵1/4 When they are read books that claim kids with the same feelings — who feel awkward or uncomfortable, or prefer a certain kind of clothes or toys — do so because they were “born in the wrong body,” they start to wonder if they, too, were born in the wrong body …

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Dec 16, 2023 14 tweets 3 min read
The babies of the fam have a particular cross to bear.

Today is my 14y.o.’s birthday

As the youngest of 4 sisters, sometimes she feels like an outsider.

Less than.

A shadow.

A fragment…

1/14 I know because sometimes she tells me.

She watches her older sisters and admires their accomplishments and unique gifts and wants to know when she will find hers.

What she can’t see — yet — is that they’re already there. There’s nothing to “find.”

They are baked in…

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Nov 7, 2023 6 tweets 2 min read
You know what relieves young ppl’s anxiety?

Having trustworthy, dependable adults in charge.

When the hysterical parents of the Great Viral Panic bartered for “safety” with their children’s childhoods, they shattered the illusion of security for legions of youth …

1/6 Image This isn’t a new concept.

Babies who have inconsistent, erratic, or neglectful caregivers develop insecure & anxious attachment.

Among adults, happiness & hopefulness scores plummet when citizens don’t trust their gov’t, the authority responsible for societal welfare…

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Oct 24, 2023 6 tweets 1 min read
The bar for basic competencies has dropped far too low for modern society to sustain itself.

We need to bring back merit, standards, & expectations.

How do we do that?

First, we stop the obsession with "inclusion."

Not everyone should be included in everything ... We have to accept that sometimes ppl will be found lacking.

We have to accept that not all outcomes will be equal.

And we have to accept that those truths might result in some people feeling bad.

Which, contrary to popular opinion, is not an inherent tragedy or injustice...
Sep 12, 2023 9 tweets 2 min read
Let's talk about what's happening with this nauseatingly dishonest discourse about crying children:

It's fake.

No one is saying children should never cry.

They're saying that children should never be forcibly masked...

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And every person smugly piling, "My kid cries when I give him the wrong color cup!" comments onto those ridiculous, disingenuous threads knows this.

(They also know that there is no legitimate game of competitive suffering & "This picture is way worse!" is a distraction.)

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Sep 8, 2023 5 tweets 3 min read
So I saw this disturbing thread pointing out that the mention of Covid on a death certificate (or not) nets ~$6K in free funeral-related expenses from FEMA ($35.5K per application for multiple decedents) but Maui fire survivors are getting $700 per household…
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So I went to fact check the $700 number and the first search result was an article on how it wasn’t true.

So I read the article and followed the link in the article to “find assistance” at …

disasterassistance.gov
fema.gov/node/fema-only…

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Aug 20, 2023 12 tweets 3 min read
This morning I was thinking about something @Markchangizi posted recently, as the discussion of masks inexplicably bubbles up again ...

It was his response to the Q: "What's so hard about masking?"

And his (paraphrased) answer was: "Because it covers my face"...

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And damn - he's right.

Dead over target.

That's it.

End of discussion.

And, in retrospect, I think conceding that we need to somehow empirically "prove" they didn't work or that they are harmful was a mistake ...

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Aug 18, 2023 6 tweets 1 min read
I’m always fascinated how quick people are to broadcast their insecurities in a contentious exchange.

How?

Personal insults.

I’ve found that, typically, the personal, non-substantive (which is key) insults they lob — usually their out-of-the-gate, go-to punch — is the tell… “You’re selfish!” = “My character leaves something to be desired.”

“You’re ugly” = “I feel ugly.”

“Where did you go to school?” = “I wish I felt smart enough to not lean on my credentials.”

Etc.

IOW, they hit you where it would hurt *them* (b/c deflection & projection)…
Jul 3, 2023 12 tweets 3 min read
It finally makes sense to me why trans-identifying people claim that failing to “affirm” their preferred gender equates with “denying their existence”

(&, tangentially, why they lean so hard on stereotypes.)

1/10 Material reality is measurable & observable.

We can agree what sex a baby is when it’s born (intersex disorders excepted) because we can perceive that reality with our senses.

Existence of X doesn’t *require* external validation b/c it exists irrespective of such.

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Jul 1, 2023 7 tweets 2 min read
Like many people, I didn’t like the material reality of my body as a young adult.

And if, when I hit 5’8” at 12, someone had said to me:

“It makes sense you hate yourself. Here’s a pill that can stop your growth so you won’t hate yourself anymore” I would’ve been all in.

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And that’s a fairly innocuous hypothetical re: life-long consequences imposed by an immature brain, facilitated by adults incapable or unwilling to look at the big picture.

IOW, it describes a hardware fix to a software problem crafted by a noob programmer w/ no oversight.

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Jun 30, 2023 7 tweets 2 min read
I used to think kindness was the most important quality I could instill in my girls.

In retrospect, I focused on kindness because I was hurt & didn’t want them to grow up to be like the bullies of my past.

But that was projection.

It was about my needs, not theirs …

1/5 Since that realization, I’ve prioritized courage, critical thinking, & an internal locus of control in my parenting.

Courage is essential & required to stand up for what’s right when everyone else is sitting down.

Prioritizing your integrity over approval takes practice.

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Jun 25, 2023 33 tweets 5 min read
A mom on trust & vaccines:

I have 4 girls, ages 13-21

#3 (15) has autism. She was diagnosed at 18mo

I don't know what caused it

I do know that her symptoms started around 10wks & didn't fit the pattern of 18mo/2yr developmental regression often described w/ vaccine injury
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I figured she was born that way.

The doctors didn't have any answers, and the timing of her symptom onset was enough for me to claim - with absolute certainty - that her dx was not vaccine-related.

She was 2mo old. She hadn't even had that many vaccines. (She had had 7.)

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May 26, 2023 4 tweets 2 min read
Happy to hear @BritishCycling announce their new policy that only natal women will be allowed to compete in the Female division. 🙌

Contrary to media reports, they didn’t “ban” anyone.

They (correctly) clarified eligibility … And the policy still needs work given they continue to recommend that men be allowed to “identify” into women’s changing rooms. Image
May 20, 2023 18 tweets 4 min read
My daughter graduates high school today.

And this isn’t some ‘going-through-the-motions, rubber stamp’ graduation like mine was 25 years ago.

Hers is different.

We all know why …

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Her public school closed down half way through her freshman year, not to reopen in-person for 12 months and only then with masks, insanely unhealthy social distancing restrictions, and asinine quarantine requirements…

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May 8, 2023 15 tweets 3 min read
I want to talk about the framing here. “Wrecked” is a powerful word; it means “destroyed.”

Implicit in this statement is:

1. Motherhood is victimizing

2. The children brought forth are the destroyers

3. We cannot recover

It’s true that pregnancy changes bodies…

1/15 And while I understand there’s a need to discuss the changes & complications related to pregnancy & childbirth — especially for women who experience more serious outcomes — we’d also do well to avoid using language that both blames the children we bear and removes our agency…

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Apr 24, 2023 4 tweets 1 min read
Want to see actual hate?

Not “hate” that’s code for “How dare you disagree!”

Actual hate.

Read the comments.

Ridiculing, insulting, & victim-blaming — all for the sin of speaking publicly about a severe injury she sustained when a man was allowed onto a womens’ court… These people aren’t thinking. They’re feeling.

And they *feel* justified in their bullying because the ppl exploiting their fragility assure them that they are good & anyone who disagrees is bad.

So they revel in blaming their misery on ppl who refuse to conform & comply…
Apr 19, 2023 13 tweets 3 min read
🧵 We live in a time when it’s far more materially, socially, & emotionally rewarding to be a mindless drone than a critical thinker.

Just like w/ Covid, the incentives all go one way & — also like w/ Covid — believing it’s coincidental requires suspension of disbelief…

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To even see that there is an alternative to going along — that thinking for yourself and behaving in ways consistent with your principles, irrespective of what others are doing, is an option — requires self-awareness & character that is increasingly rare…

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Apr 17, 2023 5 tweets 2 min read
What has always driven the creation of separate spaces & opportunities for women are the physiological differences + inherent sexual tension that differentiate us from (& render us vulnerable to) men.

#notallmen, to be sure.

But the fact that most men...

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... do not want their mothers, wives, & daughters to disrobe in front of other men illustrates this fundamental truth pretty well.

And that's why allowing men to claim entitlement to those separate spaces & opportunities is absurd on its face ...

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Apr 3, 2023 4 tweets 2 min read
For everyone claiming that men playing women’s sports doesn’t hurt women:

This guy just cheated every woman down roster out of their paycheck.

I wonder how the apologists would feel if they were cheated out of their paycheck. So, that’s really interesting … “Tweet deleted”

How long do you think until we see articles about how the ratio was driven by “hateful transphobes” instead of “advocates for safety and fairness in women’s sports”?

I’m guessing not even 24hr.
Apr 3, 2023 5 tweets 6 min read
Timeline Humanity Cleanse:

My kids tell me I’m a personality cross between Linda Belcher, Cordelia Chase from OG Buffy & Kristin Wiig — which is super-specific, but also surprisingly accurate. 😂

What pop culture character comparisons or amalgamations do you get or relate to? twitter.com/i/web/status/1… Argh. I hate editing because it gets rid of old replies.

We lost a Diane Chambers and a [Seinfeld x Dr House] to the move. ☹️

Alex/drunk Ron is still here, tho! 😅

So good.
Apr 2, 2023 10 tweets 4 min read
If Merck is paying me to promote Ivermectin, they’re def not getting their money’s worth. 😂

Seriously, tho — this is not simply tedious midwittery. It’s an intentional deflection.

From what?

Calling out a dude who by all accounts appears to be a covert Pharma shill … I have beef with deceptive marketing. I loathe it. Its patently unethical and, frankly, it’s a parallel for how the mass Covid panic got it’s legs.

It’s disguises self-interest as legitimacy and manipulates people, en masse…

https://t.co/HYzp15Os8Q