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Parent, Activist, Speaker, Author (#BecomingEve), Ordained Rabbi, Woman of Trans Experience. Get my book: (She/Her)
Jul 13 4 tweets 1 min read
Criticizing a country doesn't always come from a place of hate. In fact, very often it comes from a place of caring, and even love.

I criticize 2 countries the most: the 2 countries I am a citizen of (by birth) and carry their passports.

Because I care.
Yes, if I was a great selfless person, I would care about human rights equally everywhere. I would criticize human rights abuse across the globe equally.

Yet, while we try to fight for human rights everywhere, I guess I am still not selfless:
I fight my own countries more.

Jun 28 4 tweets 1 min read
My youngest sister (8/8), age 18, got engaged yesterday - arranged of course, after one meeting of less than an hour.

Mazel Tov, I guess.
As usual, got mixed feelings.

On one hand: teenagers shouldn't get married, especially not arranged marriages to people they don't know.

1/ Screenshot from a Hasidic daily bulletin in Williamsburg, Br At the same time, in all likelihood (I mean I haven't seen her since she was 12, so hard to say I really know her), she is happy.

We grew up in a culture where that's the one, and almost only, goal of a teenager: get married, have a lot of kids.

It's sad and messed up >

May 8 6 tweets 2 min read
The only "crisis" involving interfaith/multi-faith (or faithless) marriages within our Jewish community - is how some mainstream community, in the name of "tradition," treat loving families.

The only threat to "continuity" is when you exclude loving families, who choose to be > > part of our communities.

Some of the most engaged, deeply Jewish, families and children I have met, have been part of beautiful interfaith families.

When a family chooses to stay involved, we need to embrace and celebrate them. That's how we build community.
Jan 15 4 tweets 1 min read
If you plan on using us, using our Jewish community, to justify Islamophobic and racists rants over the next few hours and days:

DO not. Just don't.

You are not helping us. You are not fighting antisemitism.

We get through this together. Not by dividing us.
Jan 15 6 tweets 2 min read
No words.

At Reform Congregation Beth Israel in Colleyville, TX - a gunman holding the rabbi and community hostage during #Shabbat services.

This is at least the 3rd time in so many years a #Synagogue has been attacked on Shabbos.

Our hearts 💔… * in the US alone.
Dec 31, 2021 4 tweets 2 min read
Tradition (Hasidic) has it that for a special Shabbat we make an extra kugel.

So, here I am, for the first time ever, making Onion Kugel from scratch (dough and filling).

Shabbat Shalom - Git #Shabbos, and #HappyNewYear 🥮🎉

#שבתשלום 💕 After baking! ImageImage
Dec 30, 2021 5 tweets 2 min read
#NewYears is on Shabbos - aka, as Jews we have rich traditions on how to celebrate at home.

One of the most beautiful parts of Jewish year-cycle rituals and celebrations, is the "do at home" parts.

This year, let's #StayHome and put it to use celebrating New Year's as well 🎉 Some traditions to put to use:

- if you can, prepare foods that "set the mood" for you. Whether historically traditional, or just traditional for you.

- set the table. Traditionally on Shabbat that means a white tablecloth, candles, etc. Use what sets the table for you.
Dec 2, 2021 5 tweets 2 min read
Never going to forget this:

When I was doing my post-Rabbinical ordination in a Hasidic school, there was a woman who was told SHE IS REQUIRED by Jewish law to have a 3rd trimester abortion/induce labor (with almost no chance of fetus survival).

Many states now outlaw it.

The husband got really upset, and didn't wanna go through with it (sadly, he had that control), till we asked the Rebbe (my former community's Supreme Leader).

He and the Rabbi (I was shadowing at the time) went to ask the Rebbe.

The Rebbe's response: if the doctors say >

Dec 1, 2021 6 tweets 4 min read
Let's talk about cheese latkes, #Chanukah, and powerful women ✊

Cheese latkes are a traditional Ashkenazi #Hanukkah dish that combines two holiday foods, oil and cheese.

While the cheese might be less known, it has IMO a far cooler story: Judith.

(See @TheRaDR thread below). The story of Judith, a mythological tale from the Book of Judith, a book of the Biblical Apocrypha (my favorite part of the Bible, in some ways), is the story of a Jewish woman heroine.

A woman who uses her power to sacrifice, seduce, help her community, and destroy patriarchy >
Nov 28, 2021 6 tweets 3 min read
I hate all the "#Chanukah is just a minor holiday" and "historically #Hanukkah wasn't a big deal holiday" talk.

Hasidic Jews, and others following Kabbalistic teachings, have made a huge deal out of it for centuries.

Big enough to call it (Day 8) a High Holidays extension!

I get that we hate the comparisons to Kratzmach (the Yiddish nickname for Christmas), and the commercialization of #Hanukka. Yes, it's not one of the 3 biblical festivals, but after that, it's undoubtedly the biggest holiday - albeit in many ways even bigger.

Some details:

Nov 9, 2021 5 tweets 2 min read
Another visit to an ancestral grave, in Mannheim, Deutschland.

2 years ago I tracked down my paternal grandfather's great-grandfather's grave: Yosef Stein my closest ancestor (and last in a long line - Stein name is German and originated there) buried in Germany.

1/5 While I knew a bit about him growing up, including that he is buried in Mannheim, as far as family stories and traditions go I didn't know much

Yosef was also the Zaide (grandfather) who I share with the closest non-Hasidic (multi-generational) family I have >

Oct 9, 2021 6 tweets 2 min read
A favorite Hasidic teachings:
Noah* utterly failed. He failed his mission, and life.

He was supposed to argue with the Divine, and to do more to save the people of his generation.

Creating your own surviving arc is failure 🤦‍♀️

* of Biblical Arc fame - this week's Torah portion The source of the idea is Zohar (3:15a):

"And he didn't ask mercy for the world, and the water came, and all the people died. That's why it's called Noah's waters. Noah's water of course, because it was his fault. For he didn't ask mercy for the world."
Dec 31, 2020 4 tweets 3 min read
I am speechless (an understatement)!

This (likely) is the Shofar my great-grandfather smuggled into, and blew in Auschwitz!!!!

I grew up with this story. He writes about it, but we THOUGHT THE SHOFAR IS LOST.

The @MJHnews has had it for a while, NOT KNOWING WHO IT BELONGED TO. Yesterday, as I visited the @MJHnews in Manhattan, I came across the Shofar, and this is what it says next to it:
"We do NOT KNOW by whom, and we do not know who blew it."

I felt like I was gonna faint, reading it, and seeing it!!!