I can no longer stay quiet on #DeppvHeard. I watched pretty much all the #DeppVHeardTrial (amazing I got any work done or still have a relationship) and my main takeaway message is, yet again: WE ARE STILL FAILING EVERYONE WHEN WE IGNORE WOMEN'S VIOLENCE & ABUSE. Buckle up...1/13 Just to be clear about *my* context - I'm not a men's rights activist, I'm not a feminist, I'm not a Depp/Heard supporter. I am a staunch believer that there are no 'bad people' but that people do bad things, and that everyone should be given the chance to change. 2/13

So, let's talk about the use of the term "Cinderella" in describing these cases. Cinderella was abused, imprisoned, frightened, a victim. She was delicate, had suffered a number of ACEs and just needed a Prince to save her (insert eye roll here) 1/7

https://twitter.com/DrJennyMackay/status/1250334104656039936

If women who perp violence at home are seen in this way (& I'm not saying they shouldn't be), what is our instinct? Probably to understand why (which usually means assuming self-defence), to care, to sympathise, to rescue.There are 2 fundamental problems with this that I see 2/7

I stand by our country's legal system, that someone is innocent until proven guilty and is entitled to a fair trial. But it is difficult not to comment on the issues of the #CarolineFlack case as someone who researches women's perpetration of intimate partner violence 1/ Women's use of violence and abuse against partners is a very real thing. It is not always self-defence, just as it is not always a pattern of behaviours (note - this applies to men too). But it can have very serious consequences that are often largely ignored 2/