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#CRE #CommercialRealEstate
#business #investing

How I lost $3.5 MM in CASH - and $95 MM in equity

In 2006 I had been building mid to high end homes, about 100 per year. At 29 years old I was flying high, had just missed being on The Apprentice with Donald Trump Lots of people could feel housing getting pretty frothy. Somehow getting your 29 year old buddies approved for a $600K construction loan on stated income felt "off", but when in Rome, right?

I didn't like it - but there were more and more people getting in, so we kept going

Your long term relationship will be set up one of three ways:

1. You are in control, she wants to please you above all else. She can't get enough sex.
2. Back and forth, cat and mouse, almost competing for control.
3. She is in control. Sex is your reward for decoding her needs. Her greatest desire, she desperately wants you in control, to submit to you.

This takes patience. You have to be willing to sacrifice sex for a week in exchange for sex anytime you want.

Your mission and frame must be bullet proof. You have to be able to take it or leave it.

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You: I'm the man. I got this. Any girl would be lucky to have a guy like me.

Also you: She doesn't care about me. She is all about her. I need to find someone who appreciates me. I'm done.

Sound familiar?

This was me for years!! The fact is that she probably desperately wants you. There's a lot going on... And another fact is that you probably feel this way, as pissed off as you do because you WANT HER.

And it makes you so mad to feel like she doesn't want you as much as you want her. 🤬🤬🤬

Relationship hack:

Women desperately want to be desired.

Stay focused on your mission instead of Simping around for sex like a puppy waiting for a treat

Then, when you know 100% you cannot have sex because of your wife's schedule, go all in on desire. She needs to leave the house in 20 minutes. No chance anything you do turns into sex.

Normally you wouldn't aggressively hug, kiss, smack her ass, come up behind her and grab her from behind, even push her against the wall and let her know you are turned on when she's leaving.

Orgasm. (THREAD)

There I said it.

You might think your wife or girlfriend doesn't like or want sex - but what if you are part of the problem?

"No - I'm different, I tell her I want it to be good for her!"

All you are doing is adding to her pressure and frustration. Why is Noone talking about this?

Guys talk about sex. Guys watch porn. Girls do too, but if a guy has sex shame it is worse for a girl. And unless she's a slut (who likely has no problem with having an orgasm), that hot, healthy, normal girl you married might not know this stuff

Unpopular THREAD:

Women are smarter than men.

My buddy (an Alpha) was out with his wife. She felt she needed to go home to check on their 13 year old daughter. He said "no".

Finally his wife can't reach their daughter and leaves. Daughters appendix had burst, she passed out. Another example:
My 16 year old son hanging with new friends. My wife's spidy senses get going. I tell her it's fine. She busts open my sons back pack and finds vape stuff, cbd, etc.

We cancel those friends - now my son is on full scholarship at a great school.

Women = smarter

THREAD: Talked to a married guy yesterday who reached out to me.

He and his wife are having sex 1-2 times a month. They both had a desire for a big family, so they have 4 kids under 9 years old.

His wife is unsure about things suddenly. She's having a mid-life crisis. Guy tells me he wouldn't put up with this normally, but his wife was Sexually abused when she was young, and this makes him feel like he can't push for sex in the relationship, or he's an insensitive jerk.

Meanwhile his wife is going out with friends and avoiding responsibility

THREAD:

I'm a good copycat, pretender, easily inspired, scrappy... But not sure how original?

In 2002 after 2 years of marriage and working as a salesman, I met a kid I knew from high school who was building houses.

He was honestly a dick and a crook (still is today). So in 2002 I decided to become a home builder.

I found a lot for sale, wrote an offer to buy it, got a construction loan - and with a different buddies help, started building my first house, hiring subs, etc.

I worked early mornings and late nights and did sales during the day.

THREAD: Anyone can change. Even you.

I grew up poor. Oldest boy of 9 children. My dad taught high school drama classes and was a radio DJ on the weekends. He made 14k / year.

My mom was pregnant 10 times (1 sister died at birth). That's 90 months pregnant! It was insane. My mother couldn't function. She was pregnant or nursing my entire childhood. I started out a mommas boy. The first kid at church with all the Bible answers. I was bullied every day.

My Dad never stood a chance. He couldn't make money, and my Mom kept having babies. It was bad.

THREAD: I started like you. Didn't have a clue when I got married. In high school, college I had some game - good enough to get the girl, and when I married her I thought the rest would be easy.

Suddenly it was time to get a job, be a man and provide.

No worries - I got to work So we need to buy a house, upgrade our cars, have kids put them in sports, get a nicer house, go on vacations, that's what you do, right?

That's what everybody else was doing - and if I busted my ass, that's what we did too.

And my wife was hot, made me lunches every day...