Just off a WhatsApp call w/a friend in Europe who's been studying narcissism and wants me to consider a few things about the man I left earlier this year. He was not surprised by the ghosting and stonewalling; I too had expected it, bc the fellow in question has done this before. 2) Europe said, “It's a sustained tantrum on his part, a way of prolonging the last of his controls over you.” I had expected he'd do this, & have been using his behavior to clear up questions in my head about the intrinsic value of the relationship.

#BubbleStory book notes:
The bubble is not about enclosure or safety, but about control. It's not a biodome but a mold, where control is exerted, and members are expected to conform or be excluded, even degraded. 2) Narcissistic family systems run largely on anger, so there's a lot of telling, not discussion. There's no love in the joyful sense: it's about dominance and control, manipulation, even bullying and humiliation. Members are frequently triangulated to afford control.