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Insanely curious about the human mind. Trying to dismantle it bit by bit.
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18 Oct
We are all narcissists โ€” A (๐š๐š‘๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š) on overcoming the need for external validation
"Don't worry about what other people think" is useless advice (well-intended though).

Try this โ€” don't think of a pink rhinoceros. Were you successful?
Deliberate attempts to suppress certain thoughts only make them more likely to surface.

When you tell yourself "stop thinking about X!", the mind monitors all your thoughts and brings anything that revolves around "X" to your awareness.

This is called the Ironic process theory.
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27 Sep
How Meditation Alters the Brain (๐š๐š‘๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š)

Here's how meditation changes the brain โ€” structurally and functionally
For a long time, I dismissed meditation as spiritual woo-woo.

How could closing your eyes and focusing on your breathe or thoughts or whatever make any difference?

To my "rational" (and ignorant) mind, it made no sense.
Sometime last year, I read up on the science of meditation. And it made me feel stupid for ignoring it all these years.

So for over a year, I've meditated almost daily. I'm not going to talk about the (life-changing) benefits I've experienced. Because your mileage may vary.
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19 Sep
How to Hack Willpower (๐š๐š‘๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š)

We know what we need to do to get where we want to.

We know the things that we need to avoid and cut out.

But when it comes to making things happen, we often fail to follow-through and give in to our temptations.
We fail to win these battles because in that moment we lack the required willpower to overcome the resistance.

Imagine what your life would look like if you had the ability to avoid all distractions and check off everything on your to-do list.
You wouldn't be a slave to your urges and feelings.

You'd be able to prioritize the things that are truly important to you.

You'd have freedom in the true sense.

But we can't just think our way into increased willpower. It's not a question of "mental grit".
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12 Sep
Why Exercise? โ€” The Neurobiological Benefits of Exercise

How working out can make you happier, smarter, driven, and focused.

(๐š๐š‘๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š)
๐„๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐’๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ž

Letโ€™s start with what you already know โ€” exercise makes you feel good. Why?

The standard answer is endorphins. They kill off any pain or stress and produce a feeling of euphoria.

However, endorphins are only a small part of the picture.
Exercise also boosts the levels of serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine.

Altogether, these three neurotransmitters heavily influence your productivity, energy, and happiness.

Serotonin regulates your mood, appetite, sleep, and overall sense of well-being.
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23 Aug
The broader impact of this change on society would be interesting.

I'd highly recommend reading Tao Te Ching. It will help you appreciate the beauty of this cultural shift.

Some loose thoughts follow. <thread>
I'm personally going through this shift and it has been cathartic.

My previous frame was very achievement-oriented.

I used to think that it was important to have a strong self-narrative.. a strong why... a story that motivates you.
But when you do that, you're chasing an external ideal

You think there's a destined place out there and once you get to it you'd have truly arrived.

You pick certain goals based on how you've been conditioned by others (parents/society/twitter).

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7 Aug
How to Win Arguments (๐š๐š‘๐š›๐šŽ๐šŠ๐š)
I used to spend a lot of time arguing with people.

About anything and everything. Offline and online.

It gave me a rush. I wasted a lot of time and energy doing it. And often acted like an asshole.
I've tried to fix that over the last year.

The first step was to recognize that I had a problem. Grateful to have friends who pointed it out.

I realized that this compulsive behavior was my ego โ€œstriving for superiorityโ€ to counteract not feeling good enough.
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28 Jul
๐—ง๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ

Realize that you are constantly being conditioned by society.

We donโ€™t construct our beliefs out of thin air. We consciously or unconsciously adopt them from our environment.

(cont...)
And in this digital environment, we bombard ourselves with information round the clock. Drowning out our own inner voice.

There are powerful forces out there trying to manipulate how you think and what you believe.

You gotta protect your individuality.
Thatโ€™s why, from time to time, tune out the noise and spend time with yourself. Solitude is important.

To make it a habit, set aside 30 mins for a walk in nature every day. It will do wonders for your mental state.
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15 Jul
We know we could be doing and achieving and experiencing so much more.

๐™Ž๐™ค ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™™๐™ค ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™›๐™–๐™ก๐™ก ๐™จ๐™๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ?

(continued...)
There are people out there with worse genetics and worse circumstances, accomplishing things you dream of.

What are they doing differently? How do their minds operate?
People with a defeatest attitude love to put it all down to luck. Because it absolves them of any responsibility for their own life.

But itโ€™s so much more than luck.

You know that.
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8 Jul
๐„๐ฑ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ

We like to stay in our own little bubbles. Where our thoughts and beliefs go unchallenged.

Unless some event or new environment gives us a strong reality check.

(cont...)
Say, for instance, you believe that youโ€™re really smart.

Then one day you move to a new city and the people around you turn out to be far smarter than you.

And you realize that you were never as smart as you believed.
Itโ€™s important to constantly check the validity and quality of your beliefs by exposing them.

Now, there are two aspects to โ€œexposing yourselfโ€ here.
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1 Jun
๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ก๐—ฒ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—•๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐˜€ (Thread)

Have you wondered why news coverage is predominantly negative?

Have you noticed that we dwell on the unpleasant and traumatic events much more than pleasant ones? Image
We tend to remember that one negative comment or insult more clearly than the other hundreds of compliments.

We replay arguments in our head, overthinking what we should have said.

We vividly remember our mistakes and embarrassing moments. Even if they happened ages ago.
Here's the thing.

The survival of our ancestors depended on their skill of avoiding danger.

They had to always be on the lookout for threats and react instantly. Paying attention to negative stuff was literally a matter of life and death.
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25 May
Managed to create a makeshift system. For all non-essential content consumption and curiosities.

Sharing my ideas and @NotionHQ template below.

<Nerd thread>
I have a central database for all the content I want to consume. (Articles, Books, Podcasts, Videos, Documentaries, etc.)

If I come across anything interesting or if someone recommends anything โ€” it goes to this database first. Image
Here's what I record.

- Type
- Title
- Time Commitment
- Topic
- Recommended By
- Priority
- Status
- Score/5
- Link
- Creator

Some manual work upfront, but a lot of long-term benefits. Trying to automate this.
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8 May
๐Ž๐ง ๐–๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  [Thread]

Looking back, one of the things that has had the biggest impact on my life is writing.

It is a habit I developed unintentionally.

I was lucky to get access to the internet very early in my childhood. (Thanks dad)
And I spent countless hours of my life engaging in pointless debates with strangers on the internet.

Pretty much every topic under the sun. Not really proud of it.

But it forced me to learn how to write and articulate my thoughts like nothing else.
Because my ego was at stake. So I gave everything to one-up the guy(s) on the other side.

Wasted a lot of time, but at least something good came out of it.

And funnily enough, along the way, I also made a lot of friends across the world.
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13 Apr
๐™Š๐™ฃ ๐™ƒ๐™ž๐™œ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐˜พ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ค๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ

The idea of higher consciousness might sound a little woo-woo.

The term is almost always used in spiritual contexts, often by pretentious mystics or posers.

But higher consciousness has inherently nothing to do with spirituality. Image
Let's talk about it in purely rational and scientific terms.

As humans, we spend most of our life in states of lower consciousness.

Our primary concern is our own self โ€” our survival, our relationships, our successes or failures.
We constantly obsess about the past or worry about the future. And care too much about what other people think of us.

There's a lower part of the brain โ€” labelled the 'reptilian brain' โ€” which we could probably associate with lower consciousness.
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29 Mar
Are you familiar with the concept of herding / herd mentality?

It's when people people follow and copy what others are doing instead of making their own decisions.

I'm sure you see it a lot around you.

You do it too.

In a different way.

<Thread>
Here's a simple example of herding. (Poetic that we are discussing herding during these times lol)

Imagine if you're out to eat and see a couple of people queueing up outside a food joint.

"This must be a good place", you think to yourself and join them in the line.
Another person walking by sees three people queueing up outside the restaurant and thinks "This must be a great place", and joins the line.

More and more people keep joining the "herd" this way.
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6 Mar
โ€œI donโ€™t know what I was thinking!โ€

We say things we didnโ€™t mean to. Do things that we know weโ€™d regret. Make stupid purchases. Act aggressively in the heat of the moment. Eat mindlessly.

Almost as if we lose control of our own minds. Why?
Our brain has gone through millions of years of evolution.

Although we have evolved into brilliant conscious, creative beingsโ€ฆ there are parts of our brain that are very primitive and animalistic in nature.

Our primal instincts heavily influence our behavior.
And in some situations, these instincts overpower our rational mind, causing us to act irrationally.

Corporations and politicians take advantage of these same primal instincts to manipulate you.
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1 Mar
#CoronaVirus

Been reading up on similar outbreaks in history. Here are some highlights from my research.

We have not seen anything like this in our history.

<Thread>
"It is estimated that 11โ€“21% of the then global population (of about 6.8 billion), or around 700โ€“1400 million people contracted the illness โ€” more in absolute terms than the Spanish flu pandemic."

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_flu_โ€ฆ (Swine Flu / H1N1)

Contd.
"However, with about 150,000โ€“575,000 fatalities, it had a much lower case fatality rate of 0.01-0.08%."

For context, Coronavirus has a fatality rate of 1-2%.

Next, let's take a look at the contagiousness oh H1N1 and compare it to #CoronaVirus.
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16 Feb
To fix your procrastination problem...

The first thing you need to do is have strong and specific intentions.

It's easier to procrastinate when you only have a vague idea of what you gotta do.

It's also easy to procrastinate when you're trying to achieve 10 different things.
Focus on 2 or 3 things. The things that are most important to you. Keep them at the top of your mind.

Everything else should be noise.

Find your north star(s). Don't lose sight of it.

So that you can re-orient yourself every time you stumble.
Once you've done that, the next step is to increase your awareness.

You need to realize you're procrastinating when you're procrastinating.

No point feeling guilty after mindlessly scrolling on your phone for 40 minutes.

Learn to recognise the things that do not serve you.
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14 Feb
Let's talk about the psychology of insecurities. <Thread>

I used to be a skinny guy. Very skinny.

I was repeatedly mocked for it. Everywhere.

It made me feel small, weak and not good enough.
What did my ego do?

It protected me by making me internally believe that I am better than everyone else.

My ego compensated by being overly assertive, defensive and cocky.

Over the years, as I grew, this habit evolved a life of its own.
I became arrogant, argumentative and developed a superiority complex.

This problem got worse in college. Where you get more conscious about your self-image.

It took me too long to realize and fix this behaviour.

And only then I could start working on fixing myself. Image
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12 Nov 19
Have you ever found yourself unconsciously unlocking your phone and opening Twitter/Instagram/Facebook?

Almost involuntarily. Without a conscious thought.

And before you can even catch yourself, you're already scrolling mindlessly.

Getting those dopamine hits.
We're hooked. They have us on strings.

They want to create mindless consumers.

Most people have already surrendered.

And they're miserable.

You need to escape.

For your sanity.
For your happiness.
For your freedom.

How?
Meditate. Raise your awareness.

Catch yourself in the act. Resist.

Take control.

Replace it with something else.

Read books. Write, dance, create art. Whatever makes you truly happy.

It's uncomfortable. Very.

But if we don't do it now...
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2 Nov 19
I was going through Sam Ovensโ€™ stuff to see how he sells his courses/programs.

(One of the biggest names in the Consulting industry. Sells training programs that help people launch and scale their own consulting business.)

Noticed something very interesting. Actually, weird.
Now, he has 3 simple offerings.

- Consulting Accelerator: From scratch to 6-figures.
- Uplevel Consulting: Scale-up from 6-figures to 7-figures.
- Quantum Mastermind: Grow to 8-figures and beyond.

The last two are high-ticket offerings. Probably a 5-figure fee.
For those two, he offers a video demo and closes the prospects over a call.

Cool.

The Consulting Accelerator program is obviously his most popular training.

Where he sells you on the dream to start your own consulting business and live life on your terms.
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