The idea that we need to seek our partner's permission to do things that are within our own domain is rooted in the belief that possession equals love.
#openrelating #autonomy #agency How do you define your autonomy and agency within your relationship?
What do you include in your domain?
What are things that you know you have a right to? That you are solely responsible for?

Hierarchy in relationships: a thread.

In monogamy, there is a clear hierarchy of the dyad relationship. 2 people agree to prioritise eachother in certain aspects of their lived, eg. Romance, sex, time, living arrangements, holidays, having children together, finances etc. When it comes to Multigamy (non-monogamy), ie. The conscious and consensual practice of non exclusive relationships, hierarchy starts to look very different.

Do I need to meet my metamour?

(metamour = the partner of my partner)

What is expected of me in relation to other people my partner is dating?

A thread. My partner has a new person they are dating. They want to meet me, or my partner wants us to meet.

Do I have any obligation to my partner in this? Or to their partner?

No, I don't have to meet if there is no direct benefit to me and if it causes me discomfort or anxiety.