So far it’s worked, 12 years in May, but anything can happen so take it with a grain of salt
When I turned 30 I put together a 20-year plan broken into blocks of 5 years BUT this time it was less detailed and SHE helped
We agreed to learn about their personal lives to understand what each spouse did and did not do in those that did work and those didn’t
We listened to them on a cross-country drive from Orlando to San Francisco’s and discussed the problems we saw
He invited us both to breakfast in Jamaica
He and his wife sat us down for breakfast and he said:
“David, I’ve run a public company, I’ve done my part helping government, I’ve traveled the world and I’m still married. You asked how and so I have the answer for you...ask my wife”
It was 2 hours of “how to live with an ambitious man who was going places and charismatic, the life of the party and driven” class
She gets a bi-weekly update as the timeline changes
We have no secret bank accounts though we do have separate accounts.
I have 1 holding company and she owns 50%.
I let her know my meeting schedule when traveling and let her know how they go at the end of the day so she feels more part of my life
I want her to feel their vibe.
If she says no, no deal.
It gets tougher with 3 kids
I did the same but my list was like 1/10th lol
Instead, we have to stop and the person with the issue has to write it down in our argument book.
It forces you to calm down and think through what is making you angry. You are also much more careful with written words
Each anniversary we look back at the book and laugh at how petty our arguments were.
This year we skipped ahead 5 pages and wrote “New Chapter” since the book was 3/4 empty.
We would now right about what we love about each other when it hits
She even came with me to UWI Mona School of Business 1 year to critique an MBA class presentation and impressed the teacher (and me)
I have her read articles similar to what I intend to eventually have written about me so that she knows my exact goals.
I also draw out the business structures so she understands what fits where, who reports to who, who manages what and what exactly these things even do.
She tells her coworkers that I run a hedge fund. Easier
It’s called Berkshire
She told me that I’d love the street because she knows how much I look up to Warren Buffett
Know your spouse.
I’ve learnt additional things after 2018 that I’ll share in future
No I did not ask for a prenup delicate knowing what my wealth creation goals were.
She was already helping @realvibez with graphics. Anything I accomplished after was because of that startup and her support.
I came back a bunch of times but she as single mom.
If she doesn’t deserve half then I’m an Asshole.
My single greatest fear is achieving the success I envision and then doing something stupid because I feel invincible or that I’m so smart I can hide it.
Hubris and Ego
I don’t want to do anything hurt THEM or disrespect them because I love them so much as well.
In-laws can really make a huge difference in a marriage.
That was once of my key traits in who I would go after
Try not to hurt them, definitely don’t do it on purpose or out of spite.
Be careful what words you say when angry
Be present, not just take up physical space
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