Men are objects of success, high status and live fashion accessories to show off to her peers.
"Isn't there more to a human being than these superficial qualities?"
"I might appear like shit on the outside, but I'm amazing on the inside. Isn't that what counts most?"
You can complain about how it's unfair that people care so much about these things that they shouldn't care about, or you can play the game by its rules.
They rely heavily on these instant assessments as short-cuts to see if they want to invest further.
Hence, your outer presentation to the world MATTERS.