The entire point of this thread is the fact that everything these men are doing in response to a female performing poetry, are all the things leaders have said we cannot or should not do regarding abuse.
ANYONE in leadership had suggested we not fund the Baptist Press until we deal with the fact that they defamed two different women by reporting violent sexual assault as an affair.
That move destroyed two women AND propped up two higher profile SBC pastors.
Those pastors who were reported as adulterers instead of rapists ARE STILL IN MINISTRY, including with the SBC until one rapist removed his church a few months ago, decades after all this happened.
No one suggested not funding a news outlet that had TWICE engaged in defamation.
We would be encouraged if anyone in leadership had suggested writing letters to encourage leaders to not platform pastors who have covered up abuse.
We would be encouraged if anyone in leadership acted like Paige Patterson telling a rape victim that she should be glad it was anal rape, because her future husband can still get her virginity, did damage to marriage, families and our concepts of manhood and womanhood.
We would be encouraged if leaders, who are supposed to be the gatekeepers of ALL Scripture and protect from wolves, noted any concern with leaders who covered up abuse, teaching and preaching.
There are two former SBC pres- Patterson and Vines, who platformed a known abuser after denigrating dozens of women who reported him. Including at the pastor's conference in 1991.
No leader has suggested this wasn't ok, or acknowledged the numerous victims that resulted.
No one in leadership publicly supported Anne Marie Miller when she told how her abuse had been covered up by IMB. No one suggested funding should be withheld until we determined if the SBC was funding pedophiles overseas.
The point is not that no one can express an opinion about speakers at the pastors conference.
The point is that we are continually told the same responses being suggested for a woman reciting poetry, can't or shouldn't be used for pedophiles or pastors who cover for them.
Sexual assault of women and children is not seen as near the danger to the gospel or to people, that a woman reciting poetry is seen to be. It's not seen as a danger to marriage and family the way women not in submission is seen to be.
The biggest crisis for many is the role of women. The biggest threat to people, the church, the gospel, is the role of women.
Abuse is not seen to be nearly as damaging to anything, as "unbiblical roles".
That's the point.
And I expect people who teach or work on certain areas primarily to be focused on those main areas.
I likewise expect that leaders who are supposed to be the gatekeepers, shepherds and protectors of the church and its people as a whole, to be less myopic.
A recent survey showed that 10% of young protestants have left the church over abuse.
This is a spiritual death issue.
Studies repeatedly show evangelicals have equal rates of victims in church as out of church. That's 1 in 4 women, 1 in 6 men. 1 in 3 women for domestic violence.
This isn't a fringe issue facing your flock.
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I wrote "What is a Little Girl Worth?" as a poem to my daughters during Larry Nassar's sentencing hearing as I watched hundreds of my Sister Survivors bravely testify. I wanted them to know that no one could do anything to diminish their value one iota.
This is a message boys need to hear as well, & that's why we wrote, "What is a Little Boy Worth?"However, perhaps the most surprising response to this book has been from grown men. Men & boys often suffer in shame and silence & feel that movements like #metoo are not for them.
Nearly every organizational leader pulls this line - refusing to honestly diagnose problems before insisting on "looking forward", expecting that we will all simply believe things are now fine.
But if you can't diagnose, admit and grieve the failures, you can't fix them either.
No one is safe from the dynamics of abuse Kyle Beach experienced, because leaders haven't actually grappled with the damage and the causes. If they had any respect for what Kyle went through, or felt the need to protect others, they couldn't have answered this way.
Be better. Do it differently.
Independent investigation with access to all relevant information.
Fully public report with no limits on what is published save protecting survivor identities.
@S_L_Sanderson We homeschool and my kids are 10, 7, 6 and 3. They've heard and seen a fair bit through what I teach and through my work, and I've tried to answer that question before it's even asked. Usually when we are talking about anything like that, it starts and ends with some version of..
@S_L_Sanderson "It's so important that we knew these things because:
1. The way bad things keep happening is when we choose to pretend they aren't happening. XYZ could have been stopped and so many people saved if the people around it had been willing to stop it, instead of ignoring it...
@S_L_Sanderson It's easier and safer to ignore those things, but making the choice to not see something is why it can keep happening.
2. We have to understand it because there are always consequences to choices, and the consequences of a lot of these things can still be here even if...
If she had been interested in doing the right thing and telling the truth, she could have and should have done it before putting survivors through the hell of a trial. She could have, and should have, told the truth and accepted responsibility immediately.
Hopefully she follows through. The survivors deserve it. And if she does, it will be their strength, their courage, and their sacrifice that is the real cause.
This thread, and the one linked inside it, are so important to understand what survivors still face in our justice system. I can't stress enough how incredibly rare my case against Larry was, in its handling, time frame and outcome.
We had a sentencing hearing on less time than I expected to wait just to get possible charges, IF we were one of the statistical anamolies whose cases even got charged - and if the local prosecutor had had their way, there would have been no charges even after everything I did.
There's this perception, after everyone saw the sentencing hearing, that there's been a big shift now after our case. NOW survivors can speak up, NOW action will be taken. NOW post-Nassar and post "MeToo" we've made changes on our justice system.
What was on display in this trial was the rebuttal, yet again, of the most common rape myths that cripple our societal response to abuse:
1. The idea that memories of abuse are easy to implant and frequently inaccurate or manufactured.
2. The oft-repeated trope that survivors come forward because they are motivated by money and fame.
3. An in - depth portrayal of how grooming and trafficking really happens, and why so many survivors don't "just fight back." This is a critical reality we need to understand.