If she had been interested in doing the right thing and telling the truth, she could have and should have done it before putting survivors through the hell of a trial. She could have, and should have, told the truth and accepted responsibility immediately.
Hopefully she follows through. The survivors deserve it. And if she does, it will be their strength, their courage, and their sacrifice that is the real cause.
And let's pause to note that it appears the defense attorney knew she possessed this information the whole time. Her defense team notes she's "giving up the fight" to hide information on child sexual abusers.
They knew she was guilty and sheltering others.
So was the defense of her motivated by ensuring the right processes were followed and her rights protected and the truth found, or motivated by something else? When they made "false memory" and "victims are crazy" arguments, was it because they really thought this might be true?
At some point in time we have to start having hard conversations about whether our justice system and ethical rules meets the goals allegedly at the heart of it.
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@S_L_Sanderson We homeschool and my kids are 10, 7, 6 and 3. They've heard and seen a fair bit through what I teach and through my work, and I've tried to answer that question before it's even asked. Usually when we are talking about anything like that, it starts and ends with some version of..
@S_L_Sanderson "It's so important that we knew these things because:
1. The way bad things keep happening is when we choose to pretend they aren't happening. XYZ could have been stopped and so many people saved if the people around it had been willing to stop it, instead of ignoring it...
@S_L_Sanderson It's easier and safer to ignore those things, but making the choice to not see something is why it can keep happening.
2. We have to understand it because there are always consequences to choices, and the consequences of a lot of these things can still be here even if...
This thread, and the one linked inside it, are so important to understand what survivors still face in our justice system. I can't stress enough how incredibly rare my case against Larry was, in its handling, time frame and outcome.
We had a sentencing hearing on less time than I expected to wait just to get possible charges, IF we were one of the statistical anamolies whose cases even got charged - and if the local prosecutor had had their way, there would have been no charges even after everything I did.
There's this perception, after everyone saw the sentencing hearing, that there's been a big shift now after our case. NOW survivors can speak up, NOW action will be taken. NOW post-Nassar and post "MeToo" we've made changes on our justice system.
What was on display in this trial was the rebuttal, yet again, of the most common rape myths that cripple our societal response to abuse:
1. The idea that memories of abuse are easy to implant and frequently inaccurate or manufactured.
2. The oft-repeated trope that survivors come forward because they are motivated by money and fame.
3. An in - depth portrayal of how grooming and trafficking really happens, and why so many survivors don't "just fight back." This is a critical reality we need to understand.
Josh Duggar has been found guilty on two counts of downloading and possessing CSAM. So much grief for the survivors, and for everyone caught in the cross hairs. Perhaps most disturbing however is how the patterns noted in this earlier post, played out...
Despite clear evidence, there was no grief at what was, but rather a continual effort to thwart justice and deny. From a family member who changed his testimony on the stand, to a father who "couldn't remember" the abuse of his own four daughters, to a wife who held his hand...
The focus continued to be the living out of the same twisted theology that led us here.
The situation for everyone is devastating, but acting as though this isn't serious only furthers the devastation.
What Anna needs is someone to validate how evil this is, and grieve with her
Ok first, what I said was "that the kids can decorate with their own ornaments" NOT "all by themselves". We have 4 kids, it can't be a TINY tree. I never envisioned a tree the kids could put the star on themselves and that's not what I said!
I am deeply thankful for the guilty verdict in the slaying of Ahmaud Arbery, but in this gratefulness, it's so critical to remember a few things:
1. Remember how close we came to no trial at all due to corrupt systems and authority figures. Justice was terrifyingly slow and it took far too much suffering and effort from Ahmaud's family, press, and other law enforcement, to get this. That is a terrifying reality.
2. Getting some measure of justice is often the exception, not the rule. This result was good. This does NOT mean the systems are changing/will continue to change, without constant effort and vigilance. Don't stop paying attention - let this spur you to pay MORE attention.